CAROL (Helen Hunt) to
MELVIN (Jack Nicholson)
in the movie "AS GOOD AS IT GETS"
I don't care what you did for me. I don't think I want to know you anymore -- all you do is make me feel badly about myself.
I am not sure why the people we pull away from fight as hard as they do as we leave. And when I say fight, I don't mean making amends or doing something/anything to repair the relationship. Their universal response seems to be a tack like this:
Oh you little bastard/bitch! You think I am nasty now? You just wait until I am done with you. I'll give you a reason to go no contact.
As promised, they then up the ante and we have no choice but to fold up and walk away forever.
The last time I saw my mother she was raging at me and I flew out her door like buck shot. I walked about a mile and was going to call my SO to come pick me up and leave my truck at my mothers house.
You try and find a working pay phone in this day and age.
So I walked back, got in my truck, and drove off. The next couple of weeks were an angry blur. I had my SO go down to pick up my computer, because I was afraid if I did I might knock the living shit out of her.
Which is exactly what she did.
The best I heard back from the SO was her going on about me not being man enough to come pick it up myself.
Trust me, that bony shrew didn't want to deal with me face to face.
So I called her, and before I could give her a version of really? not man enough? she started letting me have it. I think inside that shriveled carcass of hers is one calcium leached skeleton and one huge bottomless lung.
This is the first time in almost 50 year's I stood up for myself. I have walked on eggshells and polished her ass cheeks like a dutiful son. The first time I had enough, and demanded reciprocity from her, the relationship was over.
Any one who thinks they are totally blameless for an otherwise rational human being walking away, let them get what they deserve.
If it is curling up like a spider in a candle on a piss soaked mattress in a warehouse for the aged, so be it.