Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Chronic Adult Onset Hypocrisy and Perfectionistic Appearance Seeking Attention Whore Related Disorder

“Nothing optional—from homosexuality to adultery—is ever made punishable unless those who do the prohibiting (and exact the fierce punishments) have a repressed desire to participate. As Shakespeare put it in King Lear, the policeman who lashes the whore has a hot need to use her for the very offense for which he plies the lash.” 
― Christopher Hitchens

With all the high profile personality disordered sociopath's cropping up in the past few years, I am astonished to find that people are still trying to soft sell them and how they inflict themselves on the rest of us.
  I don't care who you are,  you know a sociopath. There are too many of them out there to think you can escape their madness. Don't look around and try to guess who it might be. It will be the last person you suspect.
My mother didn't bother to hide her act from my sister and myself, so I have a pretty good radar when it comes to sensing a loon hiding behind his Sunday's finest.  I also saw the depths my mother sank to as she passed her self off as some southern belle. She would stab a guy in the back, and have his wallet out before he hit the ground.  And you wouldn't think butter would melt in her mouth.
  Those of you not raised in proximity of evil, and who think you are exempt from the effects of the wicked, need to think again. If you think your neighbor's are upstanding citizens, and are above reproach because they recycle, or volunteer for the citizens patrol, you are ripe for a picking.  The BTK killer in Wichita, short for Blind Torture and Kill, was the president of his church and a leader in his sons boy scout troop.
 Few sociopaths are boogie man Hannibal Lecters. Not many will ever be outed for what they do. It's these lesser ones you will have to deal with, and that you may never know for what they are.
It's the person who kicks his golf ball out of the rough without charging himself a stroke. The neighbor that chats you up and anonymously turns you in to the city for the height of your lawn. Soccer moms that encourage their kids to cheat.  Has a baby on board sign on the mini van yet texts while driving. Hates gays. Loves Ellen Degeneres. Lectures on the evils of marijuana but has the 8 year old addicted to adderall.
Excerpted from
It's better than robbing and killing. But a lie is a lie.
The psychiatric community is telling us that the next issue of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders will collapse most personality disorders into a couple of categories to minimize them as a psychologically relevant issue. I think that since these disorders can't be fixed, they are going to downgrade and define them out of existence. Which is yet another example of sociopath's spinning reality to maintain an image of infallibility.
 This comes at a time when the perfect storm for sociopath asshole generation settles in like a plague. The whole MTV, baby daddy, instant text gratification demographic, won't even have a name for their pathological self absorption.
A theory of mine that proves true more often than not is that if you take the most vocal, beeping and squawking, self righteous,  passer of judgmental platitudes you can find, and check how they spend their time (when they are not diverting attention away from themselves and on to others) and you will find them wrapped up in the very behavior they condemn in others.
It never ceases to amaze me.
If you don't believe me. If you think I protest too much.
Lets stroll down the hypocrite, sociopath, hall of shame!

Newt Gingrich:

 As speaker of the house, Gingrich led the charge to oust Clinton from office after the Monica Lewinsky scandal.. The impeachment proceedings were baldly partisan. Gingrich had done his best to paint the democratic party as a pack of anti family sinners since the early ninetie's.
What Newt wasn't telling others was he was banging some broad behind the back of his wife of 17 years during the proceedings.  

Elliot Spitzer:

New York States attorney general, and then Governor, who rose to power on a platform of prosecuting organized and white collar crime. Including houses of ill repute.
In a press conference to announce his resignation from public office, Spitzer copped to spending $15,000 over six months on some very pricey hookers and almost $80,000 on services  provided at the Emperor's Club VIP a New York city whore house.

Sol Wachtler:

In 1992 Judge Sol Wachtler was the head of the New York Court of Appeals, the most powerful appellate court in the land.  He was good looking, well respected, and crazy as a shit house rat.
Wachtler was arrested in November of 1992 after harassing wealthy heiress Joy Silverman for almost a year after she dumped him for not leaving his wife and committing to her.
After the break up, Wachtler would enter manic states in which he would concoct elaborate plans to fool Silverman into coming back to him. He created an alter ego under the alias David Purdy to harass and intimidate Silvermen. Wachtler was convinced that if he could make Silvermen believe in Purdy,  she would seek advice and comfort from her old lover Judge Wachtler. Dismayed that Silverman saw through his rouse, he went so far as to disguise himself as a cowboy to convince her that he and Purdy were two different people.

Jimmy Swaggert:
Head of Jimmy Swaggert Ministries would rant, weep, and thrust his Bible high in the air and strut the stage whipping his followers and himself to a devotional frenzy.
So him copping to allegations of a little post revival unwinding with Hookers in New Orleans cat houses must have come as quite a shock to his followers.
The hypocrisy was breathtaking. Swaggert was a well known fire brand on the subject of moral turpitude and demon lust.

Bob Packwood and his diaries.. This entry says it all.
Grabbed Tracy Gorman behind the xerox machine today and she got a little pissed. What's the big deal?  I was smiling while I did it. She made this big stink about it and it took me about two hours and a couple of thousand dollars to calm her down. I have one question. If she didn't want me to feather her nest, why did she come to the xerox room? Sure, she used that old excuse that she had to make copies of the Brady Bill, but if you believe that. I have a room full of radical feminist you can boff. She knew I was copying stuff in there. I had my jacket off and my sleeves rolled up,  revealing the well-defined musculature of my sinewy arms which are always bulging with desire. I know what she wanted. This didn't require a lot of thought.

A person could go on all day. One google search provided hundreds of two faced deranged nut jobs making careers out of telling others to do as I say, not as I do. These are just the high profile politicians and religious leaders.
Watching these guys is something we could use as a tool for removing ourselves from personal responsibility. We would like to think their examples can be used to rationalize away our smaller transgressions.
I am of the opinion that because they present themselves as moral leaders, they should be held to a higher standard than the rest of us. But this doesn't exempt us from personal responsibility any more than their high profile and stress filled life exempts them.  We all have to lead by example.


upsi said...

omg I burst out laughing just reading this kick-ass title. Once again, you've nailed it. Ba-da-bing!

My hypocrisy barometer is set most sensitively on myself - having been disgusted thousands of times to witness the hypocritical dealings of my mother. It's my way of fighting the good fight to hold myself to my own standards. That's the thing that is the hardest, that takes the most work and dedication, that costs the most - and that's the first thing to go in the irresponsible disordered person's worldview.

And you're right, it's the little tip-offs we have to be tuned-into. The ways people skirt accountability, flub the truth, fly just below the radar and yet consistently show us who they are.

Great post, Q!

q1605 said...

As a child it wasn't hard to see the hypocrisy in my mother. To listen to her call other women sluts (and mean it) when she always had guys running out the back door while my father came in the front.
You are right about being hyper sensitive. I find it easier to not talk a lot of shit about people in general, and I don't have to worry so much about my own faults. Except for the hand full of sociopath's in my life that I reserve the right to blast with both barrels just because I can. Mostly an ex-wife and an ex-mother. If they expect a fair recounting of their exploits from me they should have earned it.

Vanci said...

Q, Awesome, awesome post that drives right to the heart of the matter. They're sick, twisted, fucked up people, regardless of the apropo avaialable labels and regardless of how well they spin their actions. It's the actions that count, not the scale of awfulness of the actions. I currenly work in an office with a whole gaggle of these people; every day there's a new minor scheme or power play or 'little white lie.'
I often find myself on the other side of the firing squad from them because I tell the truth or because I simply refuse to participate. It infuriates them even further when I still refuse to play, even when they try to make me a target.
I try to be the best I can, too, as an example. But I've come to the conclusion that these covert socio/psychopaths are just as much wastes of space as the more overt ones.

Thanks for an excellent post!

q1605 said...

Thanks Vanci. My SO works in an office and tells me about the lies and back biting going on and it amazes me. Not that it go's on, OK I am a construction type and (this will sound barbaric) but if this went on out on a job site there would be no calls to HR. Some one would get beaten with his own detached arm.

Sheilakay said...

Your title describes my NM perfectly! Excellent post!

Adela Alba said...

I love the title! :D

I find one of the most frustrating things is that these people can accurately see sociopathic traits in others (like a lack of empathy and total disregard for the rights of others) but are so completely unaware that they possess the very same traits. What a case of denial!

q1605 said...

Yeah Adela. Most garden variety sociopath hi-jinks aren't that bad. It's just how over the top they are about to others about what they do themselves.
This code enforcement officer for a near by who was notorious for not cutting anybody any slack when it came time to write a citation.
Was FIRED! for dumping a bunch of old tires in a creek bed. This was a friend of my N mother.
Who knows what all this guy had been up to. They had a detective following him that took pictures of him doing it.
He worked for the CITY!!!!
He didn't have to go through half the hassle to dump something like this that an ordinary citizen would have had to go through.
But he couldn't be bothered.

Anonymous said...

I can't wait to see what skeletons they dig up of Santorum's. He's got to be a porno loving, bigamist, sex addict, or child molester or something. I hope I hope he winds up running for president. Oh boy, pass the popcorn!


q1605 said...

He was sort the motivation for this. I was reading an article on how far right he is and I just thought this guy's got a lot of cob webs in his head.
A dark spooky labyrinth of Mr Hyde like repression and displaced diseased thinking.

Anonymous said...

"A dark spooky labyrinth of Mr Hyde like repression and displaced diseased thinking".

So scary! I would hate to be his wife or kids.
Yep, repression of a giant shadow and projecting all that stuff out. Then he judges everyone for who he thinks they are. And he's only seeing himself. I think only Carl Jung himself could help this guy.


upsi said...

@Q's Sis - I will be buttering my popcorn and tuning in for that shit-show as well!

Anonymous said...

Yep, there are tons of them in the church.They thrive in a church enviroment. Even with those who are obvious socios, people look away and make excuse for them.They feel sorry for them instead of the victim. Christians are really deceived into thinking that these people can be rehabed in the name of Jesus.The fact is that they don't want to be rehabed.And when you try and tell others the truth about these people, they think you are not being Christ like and need to consider your own sin. The whole thing is pretty twisted.

Anonymous said...

upsi, we will laugh and laugh!
I woke up this morning thinking his past life must have been in the Spanish Inquisition. He's like the Taliban running around wanting women to wear burkas. But the joke is on him, they said if only 5% of the republican Women turn away from the GOP because of him, the democrats win again. These guys forget that women are the majority in this country, lol.


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