Wednesday, March 14, 2012

PD's please sit down and shut up.




I had an interesting exchange yesterday with an anonymous women. She seems to think that some of my posts and those of the bloggers I have links to, are very unforgiving to personality disordered people.
I don't know if she is a hanger on from the peace site. Her style smacks of it. She couldn't believe how harsh and judgmental as a group we all are. That we claim to be a safe haven, yet lash out on those disordered unfortunates.
I couldn't seem to make this woman understand. This is not a support group for people with personality disorders. This is for people who have had to deal with people that have personality disorders.
I couldn't care less if the person I deem to be disordered has been diagnosed. I am not a mental health professional.
I can't diagnose anyone as disordered.
All I know is my Nmother has made my life, and every ones life around her, a hell on earth.
If this woman/anyone cares to diagnose my mother, I will give her/you her address, and you can go live with her.
Via con dios.
You're going to need all the help you can get.






19 comments:

Anonymous said...

I guess we're "unforgiving" because we tell it like it IS, not how this troll would like to believe it is.

Yep. Reality sucks, especially when you're a troll.TW

q1605 said...

Jaysus. I saw "I guess we're unforgiving" and I thought it was her.
I am about due for my first heart attack and that about kicked it off.

upsi said...

This seems like the perfect opportunity to share a comment I recently received and chose not to publish:

"I certainly hope ya’ll enjoy entertaining each other every day with your dribble. I came across this blogspot by accident and my first reaction was, “These people have got to be kidding me, right”? “I’m going to spend or should I say waste my time ranting about people I can’t stand.” Right? (I know I’ve wasted my time reading it, ugh).
The “monsters” ya’ll talk about….. narcissistic mothers/fathers/family…. blah, blah, blah… The real monsters are yourselves! Please do your families a favor and stay far, far away from them.
We have a saying in Texas. If one person calls you a jack ass you can brush it off. If two people call you a jack ass, you might want to think about the way you behave around people. If three people call you a jack ass it is time to shop for a saddle."

So this person's rant about "us people" she doesn't like is somehow more noble than what s/he is ranting about us doing? Fuckin hypocrite. And this same person spent another few hours combing my site and also returned with the keyword search "parents against upsi" - as if I pose a threat to this person's well-being with my little-old-blog. As if there is in fact a group of parents who have banded together to fight my evil oppression. It's mind boggling.

Vanci said...

q1605,
Isn't it interesting how they show up 'accidentally' with the intention of 'peace' and want to talk about 'forgiveness' and then proceed to tell us survivors of Nfamilies that we're awful for refusing to bow to the nasty anymore, that we are horrible people for telling the truth about the abuses that we suffered?

Who are they trying to prove their well-being to, I wonder? As far as diagnosis, I laughed when I saw this little jab from your anonymous troll. Maybe we should dispense with calling them Narcs and Personality Disordered and just start calling them by less-diagnostic sounding labels. I volunteer the following suggestions:
Bad Parents.
Horrible People.
Evil Fuckers.
Or, as Upsi said, "Fuckin Hypocrites."
No PHD required for those labels!
Love,
Vanci

q1605 said...

Ya gotta kick the dog that bit ya.

q1605 said...

Vanci. It's like listening to a potted plant explain to us in detail how life is and what motivates two and four legged creatures.

Adela Alba said...

Hmph! And why should we be "forgiving"? Those disordered people in our lives won't, can't, and don't change or even acknowledge that maybe, just maybe, they've done some hurtful things.

Ranting? All of this is just mere ranting? No, it's exploring and validating our experiences. If s/he wants a rant, I can show them a good raging rant sometime. My NM was an expert.

Rather thank kicking dogs who bite me, I like this line from a song: "Don't be polite when the rude way is right, 'cause toes are meant to be stepped on if the dancing ain't nice." :)

Liberty Freedom said...

Ah, if she's not BPD, then she's a crony, an enabler, a colluder or a braindead bystander.
Set the zombies on her.
:D

q1605 said...

Well Alba. Forgiveness has been on us through out life. Why should we quit doing something that has worked for them their whole life.
I am with Liberty Freedom. Bring on the zombies.

Anonymous said...

I have spent the better part of 35 years "forgiving" my MN mother. Where did it get me? Let's see, she worked overtime trying to get my husband to divorce me, ruined my reputation in our community, ruined what little relationship I had with the rest of my FOO, kidnapped my children (I could go on and on here, but I won't bore you). This opinionated woman can forgive this bitch all she wants - I'm done.

Upsi, I'm glad you didn't post that b.s.. She "wasted" her time reading the "ranting", then wasted more time constructing that stupid-ass comment. I'll donate the saddle to HER.

Anon

q1605 said...

Yeah anon. What is up with that? My mother was the most pecking and unraveling bitch you could ever know. My mother is such an accomplished cluster fuck liar and sponsor of evil that you could publish a time/life book series about all the skulduggery she rained down on us but no one would believe it. I like to laugh and joke some, but on this I am deadly earnest. She did things to me and others in my family that even after decades of time have passed over us I still can't get my mind around it all.
Let me tell you. If someone even one time tried to give her as good as she gave all of us, she would rip out your lungs and feed them to a stray dog.
By the time I went NC, she had become the most twisted, ugly, and unfunny influence that was ever unleashed on this family.
I am the kind of person that at least tries not to give unwarranted shit to people. Key word unwarranted.
But I will be glad when she is dead. I know how that sounds, but she is the most nonredeemable and unrepentant monster I have ever seen. There has literally been nothing good that passed into her hands that survived intact and could be passed on to others. She ruined my life, the lives of my family members, and now expects us to bow down and kiss her ass for creating the eyes wide open nightmare I call my childhood.
I hope you are not offended by my words. I cleaned things up significantly and carefully sought to portray her in the most positive light I could muster.

Anonymous said...

"I am the kind of person that at least tries not to give unwarranted shit to people. Key word unwarranted.
But I will be glad when she is dead. I know how that sounds, but she is the most nonredeemable and unrepentant monster I have ever seen. There has literally been nothing good that passed into her hands that survived intact and could be passed on to others. She ruined my life, the lives of my family members, and now expects us to bow down and kiss her ass for creating the eyes wide open nightmare I call my childhood."

Not only am I NOT offended, I could have written this myself. When my evil-ass mother dies, I'm going to buy cases of champagne and ship bottles to my fellow ACoNs so that we can toast to the fact that there is one less destructive person here making everyone else miserable. Care for a bottle? lmao

I'll even go a step further and make a confession here: My friend's mother died (she was good, my friend was devastated) and I was actually jealous.

I know this may make me sound crazy, but I'm really not. I'm one of the kindest, most honest people that you could ever meet - I'm just ready to move on and live in peace without looking over my shoulder, and it won't really happen until she's gone.

P.s. A little off topic, but Upsi's commenter, who I said needed a saddle...I'm thinking that it should be a special one - equipped with a large, rotating dildo.

There's my PTSD/ADHD brain at work for ya! lmao

Anon

q1605 said...

I live in Texas and we have lots of saddles down here. I don't think I have seen one like the one you suggested.
But it sounds like you may have found a niche market I can exploit.
I'll keep you posted and if I can get this thing on the market I'll settle up with you later.

Anonymous said...

When one of my friend's mother died, the first thing she did was dance around the room singing, "ding dong, the witch is dead". And believe me, you couldn't blame her. People get pushed and pushed, and how else could they react? Cause and effect.

Sis

Anonymous said...

The world would be a much nicer place with that special saddle in the market, so you should get working on that right away. Please do send your mother one from me - shiny black and extra large. Hell, you can send mine one too while you're at it! LMAO

Anon

Lisa said...

She wouldn't understand; she's a psychopath.

@Upsi, huh, a psychopath with a southern accent! Upsi, Q, and me, that makes 3! Either way though, it isn't a game of numbers. If 50 jackasses call you a jackass, are you a jackass? Or are the 50 jackasses jackasses? Anyways, fuck you.

vicariousrising said...

You know what I have yet to see? A troll infiltrating those narc parents' sites telling them to cut out their denial crap. Maybe it's happened, but I think most of the estranged kids steer clear of those delusional kooks. Maybe it's because we know all the finger wagging in the world won't change them for the better.

q1605 said...

If it ever happens VR, they don't post it.
I think it's creepy that they come over and call us creepy and a waste of time, yet it is them taking the time to post here and not us posting over there.

Charity said...

See, this is why I call my other persona Lady Quixote. So many windmills to fight, so little time.