By God never let it be said I won't give credit where credit is due. I went to the DS and as usual clicked the first post I came to and here is what I got. This woman has a clue. The others there, as well as MN's every where could learn something from her.
I am new to this site and how depressing it is !! I haven't seen my Son for 6 months and it hurts like hell but I Love him with all my heart and I will never give up on him. I am getting on with my life and I remain positive that one day things will turn around. I won't expect an apology, I will let him express his feelings, if he wishes, and do my best to understand. My door will always be open for him...He's my Son.
I think I will see if she might want to adopt me.
54 year old construction worker seeking mother like substitute to fetch beers and wash under wear while cleaning cat puke...........
No that isn't right.
39 year old architect who loves moon light walks on the beach, whispering sweet nothings into soft ears, and is more than ready to be a man who will listen to a woman's hopes, and share her dreams ...wait I am petitioning for a mother not ...
OK......I need to snap out of it.
Of course the lady gets a 10 comment pile up of the same old song and dance. I give her three months and she'll be telling them about what a waste of space he was. How he had a scholarship to MIT but wasted his life as a co-founder of some lame produce company that is so short sighted that their product mix is limited to selling only one type of fruit. Apples. McIntosh apples at that.
Here is one:
Positivemum ~ there is nothing wrong with keeping the door open. Just remember that while that door is open a lot of negative can walk right in too! Self-doubt.....self-hatred.....confusion......anger.......bottomless sorrow.....depression....etc....etc....etc.
And here is another:
My door will always be open too. My daughter has been in and out four times. Only next time she will only be coming for a visit and will not be moving in. It hurts me too, but I am tired of cleaning up after a 35 year old and paying her way every time she wants to move back with us. She is angry at me because I told her she needed to grow up and find some respect or move out. I hope it turns around someday but she chose the silence. I did not.
And here is one I am adding only because the poster is a smoking hot blonde.
How did I turn it around? I put the focus on me and all the good things going on in my life instead of constantly obsessing over my son and the estrangement. I joined a gym and found physical fitness, running and healthy eating.
And might I say an outstanding job, and well done at the gym.
I think their credibility gap comes because they all think they have class. And that class comes by surrounding yourself with a bunch of up tight bitches like yourself and every one commencing a circle jerk of every one assuring every one else that you all have class. That class is a function of wealth, real or imagined, and what level on the pecking order a person can plug themselves into and not stand out.
I've known homeless people with more class than the whole lot of them. Even the crazy ones. You can medicate crazy. They have yet to find a cure for status seeking dumb ass bitch.