Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Queen Bitch.

Just when I thought I was out. They pulled me back in.
I just had to go over to the Daily Strength.
It's like watching a train wreck.
You don't want to do it. You might see a head roll out.
How gruesome!
But you have to. You might see a head roll out.
How cool would that be?
Some woman is looking out for her daughter by terminating her as a beneficiary on her life insurance. And we all know this means wills and any sort of asset.
I got the same thing when I went NC.
Que sera sera.
I can't spend that money swinging from a rafter turning blue. Which was looking like a pretty good deal by the time I left.
I can't make much sense of her post. But look at her next to last sentence.
How do you disown someone who is estranged from you? 
And that's the point you fucking c**t.
She disowned you first.
Breaks your fucking heart doesn't it? To always have the last word.
Then be denied the coup d'etat.
That's what she is pissed about.
If a personality disordered person disowns their child, but the child will never know, do they still get that little smirk?
HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA.
I think not.

My dh thinks I've disowned Ed because I changed my insurance policies etc. I feel im protecting her from being homeless. I told dh to keep money 10 years so when she is homeless she can have it. 

Ed is with bf with 5 kids paying for everything. He is uneducated. His ex wives same. Bf has lots of family she has only sister who she hates and who doesn't like her. When Ed needed help from bf family guess what zipp and I mean he has LOTS OF RELATIVES . She was on her own BUPKISS nada . Dh stepped up to plate. Brought her sandwiches drove her to work. They are more than happy she is looking after bf and those kids. 
I think I'm protecting her he says no. Ppl should be able to make their own mistakes. I can't buy her love been there tried that. So I felt this way since many middle age women find them selves in bad straits she will have a cushion. 
How can you disown someone who is estranged from you. She won't even know when I'm gone.

35 comments:

Charity said...

You're right, it's a trainwreck. "How do you disown someone who is estranged from you." That says it all, doesn't it.

Calibans Sister said...

Hummm, let's see, where to start. We need Jonsi or Upsi to deconstruct this! But I'd take to her with a ruler about there being such a thing as grammar, syntax, and puctuation. Illiterate much? My favorite line: "so when she is homeless he can give her the money." That's it, Dear, wait until she is homeless before "helping." Be sure she has lost every shred of dignity and hope before keeping her from starving. Ahhhh, motherly love. "Tried to buy her love." No wonder the kid left. Bleeccchhhhhh. Stupid much?

Calibans Sister said...


Yoda: a philosophical question, such as "if a tree falls in the forest, and no one hears it fall, does it make noise?"

"If a personality disordered person disowns their child, but the child will never know, do they still get that little smirk?" --Q the Cartesian

q1605 said...

I keep going to that site thinking I will see the inner workings of their mind.
I guess I got what I came for. It must be a strange place to live.
There is a new comedy on TBS. It's about a guy that married a Korean woman and had a son. The mother was trying to fix him up with a nice girl. She asked what was more effective, emotional punishment or physical.
Wrong!
If you raise a child right they will beat themselves up for you.
Q the kid who ate paint chips.

kam said...

"How can you disown someone who is estranged from you. She won't even know when I'm gone."

Well, she she doesn't know it now, but you've come up with a brilliant plan to make certain that she will know after you're gone. You will get the last word in through your will, because the executor of your estate will be legally required to send a copy of it to her.

You will also be able to perpetrate your tough love by requiring your enabling husband to watch and do nothing as your ED slides into ruin. Your retribution warranty period is 10 years or until she is homeless, whichever comes first.

Then you will posthumously (through your enH) bestow your final selfless gift upon your DH, so that you can swoop in and be the savior once she has hit rock bottom.

Have you given any thought to the post script you would like added to your headstone at that time?

Jonsi said...

I must admit to frequenting that site myself. It's so full of garbage, but boy is that garbage fun to take apart and examine!

CS - You don't need me girlfriend, look at you go!

q1605 said...

Excellent points Kam. Ones that I had forgotten but best never forget. My sister and I had my mother pegged from way back. Our family owned a smallish farm that was over taken by the City of Dallas.
My grandmother let it be known that it would go to my mother who would then pass it on to us.
We vowed to split it share and share alike if she ever pulled any shit.
When my sister found out that my mother left it all to me and $100 dollars to her, and for next to no reason at all, her words put the betrayal in perspective.
Just pretty well what you said.
I never really thought of it being a never ending snub from the grave.
And they wonder why our relationship is adversarial.

Anonymous said...

They're such dumbasses, they think they are so important that they can still control their children even after the children have blown them off. News flash for them, while they have been planning their little diabolical schemes for revenge other people have been having lives freely and happily. They remind me of Charles Dickens novels where the villain stands around wringing his hands and plotting evil. The villains never win in those novels.

Sis

Calibans Sister said...

Q, I just spent about fifteen minutes reading around in that ridiculous website "Peace," and it's about all I coulld take. So many moronic posts and comments. One was exceptionally stupid and self contradictory. someone with the moniker yvegas. What a whack job.

Charity said...

I did a google search to get the exact wording: when "Mommy Dearest" Joan Crawford died, she left her two adopted children completely out of the will "for reasons which are well known to them."

Can you imagine having a heart so hateful that you carefully plan well in advance to ensure that your final words and actions toward your children are hurtful?

I regret that I will have so little to leave my children. How wonderful it would be if I could leave them all with something grand that will not only ease their lives, and also be a final message from beyond the grave of how much they are LOVED.

Charity said...

Cal's Sis, you are a stronger woman than I, I couldn't do even 5 minutes of such a website. I'm guessing it's full of self-righteous proclamations about how good they all are at "tough love," am I right? My rabidly religious fanatic freak momster, who spends her Bible study time looking for verses to twist to suit her selfish agenda, is all about "Tough Love."

Charity said...

Disclaimer: I am a Christian Believer. I just don't worship the Bible (it's got some crazy stuff in there!), nor do I beat people over the head with my beliefs. I was staunchly agnostic for decades, thanks to my momster's hellfire and brimstone Bible thumping, so I greatly respect every person's right to believe, or NOT believe, as they see fit.

I hope I don't/didn't offend anyone. Religion is a touchy topic best left out of polite conversation.

q1605 said...

If one word of their stuff rang true I might go easier on them.
But everything falls into three camps.
1) They are praying out the wazzoo for each other.
2) they are sobbing uncontrollably for hours on end about the emotional wrecks they have become because of their children.
3) Or they are telling every one what sorry bastards sprang from their loins and you just wait. They haven't seen the last of me. When I am done with them will be sorry they so much as said boo in a disrespectful way.

And this will all be in one post.
It's like engineer's says.
You can have it fast.
Cheap.
And reliable.
Pick two.
Religion is to spirituality what politics is to governmant.

Calibans Sister said...

No offense on my end! Not only were the posts on that site the usual blather about ingrates, "after all I've done for them," etc, but most of the writing is just trash. Really basic stuff, grammar, syntax, punctuation. Self-contradictions even within the same sentences. And the CAPS. And !!!!!!!!! It's almost reassuring to read around in there because it's so easy to see why their kids went no contact. Language is so very revealing. Far more than most Narcs realize. And ACoNs are partly defined, I think, by their heightened ability to read properly what they hear Narcs saying. I've noticed that our community seems to be composed of just really smart close-readers. The same cannot be said for the Peace entries. Not even close.

Bess said...

O, you evil child. How can you have taken away all that you are to me (namely, power). O, woe is me, I sayeth unto the grave until my bones are dust.

Bess said...

O, and then my dusty bones will reassemble and I will rise up on the second coming, but then...THEN, O, evil child, you who have forsaken me will be NOT RISING UP like ME in all my GODLIKE-NESS. THEN I will win. And where will you be, O evil one?

Thankfully, if I'm where the mother believes I'm-a-goin', I'll be in Hell, where people drink beer and tell dirty jokes and use taboo words (and don't harangue me with religious fanaticism). I gots me a plan, Stan! In fact, I think I'll go there instead of the mother's house for Christmas.

Charity said...

Yikes, Cal's Sis, I need to scale back on the caps and exclamations, haha. It's what I tend to do when I get excited and can't talk with my hands. And I'm not even Italian. Everything but, I think.

I know what you are saying, though. Class, and lack thereof, does show. I used to do volunteer work for a Women and Children's Shelter, and would often accompany women to their court hearings with their abusers, solely in a layman (laywoman's?) capacity, for moral support. One very wise and fair judge often said, "If you let a person talk long enough, they tell you who they are." Amen to that, I witnessed that truth over and over.

Also, as someone famous whose name escapes me at the moment once said, "When a person tells you who they are, believe them." (Was it Oprah?)

Q, what a great way to put it, religion is to spirituality as politics is to government. You are one wise guy. I mean pig.

Charity said...

Bess, so right!

q1605 said...

Religion is to spirituality as politics is to government.
In the interest of full disclosure I didn't make that up.

Calibans Sister said...

Amen to this brutha Q. After all, it's scripture that insists Thou Shalt Honor Thy Mother and Father, no matter f'ing what.

Bess said...

Q, I used to call rumblestrips "road farts". In deference to you, I will now call them "Q's". Most of the time, anyway.

q1605 said...

I would like to honor my mother by anointing her with the shovel of life.
Right behind her ear.

q1605 said...

I have always wondered if any one even knew what a rumblestrip was.
I am glad you do.

Bess said...

:)

Anonymous said...

Hey Q, would you happen to know what happened to Lisette's blog?

q1605 said...

Not sure.
I will shine the Lisette Narc Slayer beacon in the night sky and see if I hear from her.

vicariousrising said...

God, Q, ya gotta quit reading that garbage. You're gonna end up with high blood pressure.

q1605 said...

Too late.
My head is like a dormant volcano.
The quiet below is betrayed by puffs of steam radiating from my ears.
Geologist have implanted sensors to monitor for changes in size and shape that could foretell an impending eruption.

jessie said...

Q, I also know what rumblestrips are. Just for the record. I was actually thinking about you and your name just today, and how fitting it was.

Charity said...

Rumblestrips! Those annoying things? Ha, now it makes sense.

Pray tell, what is q1605? My guess is that it has something to do with the human genome, such as chromosome 22q13.3 deletion syndrome, also known as Phelan-McDermid Syndrome, Shank3 gene abnormality. Of which I know far too much about.

Charity said...

Or it's a valve cover gasket, according to a google search.

q1605 said...

Back in the day when there was barely an internet and all I had for a computer was this IBM that had 256K ram and no hard drive. I am serious. No hard drive. It had that chip that is enough ROM to get the thing up and running and then I used floppies for any program I wanted to run.
All I used this for was to get "on-line" and buy under wear and have them sent to me.
I needed a pass word with at least one letter and one number.
Q was a letter I wouldn't forget.
1605 was the number of my apartment.
A couple of years later I was creating an account on some web site and screwed up and put this password as my user name.
I've been Q ever since, every where I go.
I am a creature of habit.

Elena K said...

Great Post, Q

Like Charity, I also thought of "Mommy Dearest".

At least one benefit an estranged child has is they might realize it's coming.

q1605 said...

CS! Did you make it to the estranged parent threads? The whole thing is full of middle class people who are convinced that they are blue blood.
Wait I'll get a link just in case.
The estranged parent threads are like shooting fish in a barrel. I go over and literally click at random and every one is a winner.
Here ya go.
http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/parents-of-estranged-adult-children

upsi said...

I admit I do it too. I try to limit myself but you cannot stop once you start. Every one is quite seriously a winner. I could spend my life deconstructing their self -proclaimed agony and still have pages and pages to cover. It's all about their pain over at DS, and don't you hater bastards forget it!