I have an ED. this is her second time. She is angry at me because I asked her sister to move out after four times of moving in and out, not paying ,helping, cooking or even taking her dog out, Then she became very abusive to me. She wouldn't answer me. Would put on earplugs if I asked her to move anything she left in the way. Threw my meals in the trash. My oldest ED would not let either her Dad or me explain what happened here. We have no more patience.
Now neither of them are talking to me after eight months. Was not invited to ones' wedding and the others' graduation from college. They are 36, 37. I called, emailed, begged, pleaded, got angry, cried for days and finally two weeks ago quit. Enough!!!. I wrote both of them that they have made it very clear to me that they don't want me in their lives. I will respect their wishes until the day comes that they can come back with respect for me and make no demands. (Their demand is that I have to go to counseling or they will not talk to me.) So seven months of silence. I will not be bullied. I told them they could be part of my future or they would be part of my past.
All they want is for her to go to counseling. They don't want money. They are not looking for a hand out or a place to stay. They don't want to borrow the car, and they don't need help with their bills.
All they want is for her to get some counseling.
She is happy to talk about the blubber fest she throws trying to manipulate her kids, but in no way will she get thee to a counselor.
Sounds like my mother. She'll flip c-notes in your direction all day long, but goddamn you to hell if you ask her to get her scrawny bony ass off the couch.