One is from Mulderfan who is expresses frustration with her many attempts to appeal to her stonewalling parents.
This is my daily affirmation: I cannot reason with these people or appeal to them either emotionally or intellectually. Passivity makes me a target, aggression delights them, and assertiveness is met with contempt. Time to face the fact that, regardless of my best efforts, these people will not change…EVER!
And one from The Daily Strength's site for estranged parents.
Do you have adult children, who have blamed you for everything wrong in their childhood, lost contact either through addiction, divorce, or in laws? No phone calls for birthdays, Mother's day, just no communication. How do you cope with the emptiness, the painful loss of not having your children in your life?
They say we blame them for our childhood. Just as quickly as they will pontificate about the wonderful child hood they provided.
It's not their fault they lost contact with their children. It's because of addictions and divorce etc.
How does your child's divorce effect the relationship you have with your child?
I would think that it would bring you closer together.
Maybe the "childhood" you provided turned them to substance abuse?
Mulderfan says I can lead them to thought but I can't make them think.
DS followers say my way or the highway.
The problem I had with my mother that she was so sure every body was out to screw her, that she fell all over herself to screw them first. This included her children. No matter if they were 4, 14, or 40.