Sunday, January 26, 2014

Narc Whisperer.

I visited a NPD blog owned by a person who claims to have super NPD communication powers. These powers allow her to interpret the words of narcissists to us unwashed idiots.  She is able to see into their minds and confer telepathically with the personality disordered. She has appointed herself "NARC whisperer. and thinks she provides an invaluable service to the unevolved. I logged in and the first thing she did was ask me to "giff me ur credit cahd numbah" She said that Narcissists are hard to understand and are picky about who they communicate with,  and because of this, I need a guide. Someone who narcissists don't mind talking to...someone with a "special" gift for understanding and relating to them.



She went on to tell me that Narcissists are peaceful and kind and are tired of being misunderstood. That it is wrong for people to judge them as lunatics, and to label them as evil. And that the way they sacrifice the natural bond between parent and child is something they would change... if only they could.  That even though narcissists hate us. Their antisocial  traits are something they are not proud of. 
Then she spewed Narcissist this, and Narcissist that, and wanted to know if there was anything I wanted to tell my mother, the Narcissist, who has passed on to the other side. She went into a trance and told me there were 21 unopened messages waiting from my mother and that she could give me a bulk rate discount to transmit them.  I thought yes, I would like to hear from my mother to find out if the fear of god has changed her. But I knew my Narcissist mother would never hear a thing I said and that there were no messages from her.  And even if my mother could hear, it wouldn't be on account of this so-called Narc whisperer. She was a phony.  A vapid poser spewing chin music far and wide, not caring what she said and who she misled. Just as long as she could hear herself speak. And fatten her wallet. I clicked out before she tried to sell me some Amway. 

23 comments:

Pandora Viltis said...

Bwahahaha!!!

I'm so sick of people claiming to be narc whisperers or narc slayers. It implies one can "best" a narc, which is a foolish belief that will bite you in the ass every time. I've got the bites in my ass to prove it.

Lisette said...

I think that Narc Whisperer is a man in drag... check out those sausage fingers. You just never know who is operating behind these blogs, forums, and websites.

Funnily enough, the best piece of advice I ever received regarding my EVIL N family happened to be from a psychic. In fact, it wasn't even advice, he just flat-out told me: "Stay away from your family, they're not lucky for you." No truer words were ever spoken to me.

I hope these Narc Whisperers promoting contact and understanding of Ns are practicing what they preach. In that they are also putting themselves in harms way. I guess because they are Narc Whisperers they think they know how to have relationships with them and come out unscathed. Reminds me of the fool who lived among the Grizzlies and deluded himself into believing he had tamed the ferocious predators... that was until they clawed him to death and ate him for supper.

q1605 said...

Two comments, one common thread. And that is that we don't have any ass left after our narcs took huge bites out of them. Well I have some ass left. It helps if you started out with an ass the size of a forty dollar mule. Like miss sausage fingers there.

Lisette said...

Yeah, what's with these Buffy the narc slayer awards? Aren't these award winning narc killers the same people who preach understanding of the poor little ole narc? Aren't they the ones who pride themselves on not being "burn the narc!" types? I think they are very confused... or just delusional.

q1605 said...

I see members that have no apparent dealings with narcissists currently. But let no opportunity pass by them if it comes to wagging their tongues and telling everyone else what to do. So that would beg the question of why they are so invested in pushing an agenda on others. They don't seem motivated by any sense of altruism. Just good old fashioned bossiness.

mulderfan said...

Who the hell wants to communicate with a narc anyway? It's like trying to understand/communicate with a venomous snake. You get bitten every fucking time. Hopefully in the ass as you head out the door and never go back!

Just wish it hadn't taken me over 60 years to figure that out!

Jonsi said...

I'm with you guys - "It implies one can "best" a narc, which is a foolish belief that will bite you in the ass every time." Ditto Pandora.

You can't "best" a narc. The only solution is to stay the fuck away from them. That's it. And I'm always leery of people who say they "understand" anything about the way a narc thinks. Doesn't it take one to know one?

q1605 said...

There are those among us that want us to step right back into the cage with the narc. I think as long as they have a fresh crop of "broken wings" to preach to and manipulate they don't give a rats ass what it does to the person who gets their ass bitten off.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

I just got banned off a social website [support group for a daughters of narcissists] for calling out someone who came to the place and told ACONS they were "simply wallowing in their misery" and that the "ABUSER BASHING" should stop. For some reason the admins went with this. To be frank, I have figured out long ago all the sympathy and empathy seems to be distributed to the narcs and sociopaths. Oh this person had on their wall a poor widdle sociopath article too, I pointed this out. I don't mind they banned me, those are people I don't want to hang out with anyway.

q1605 said...

Sometimes you don't know who your friends are until the excrement hits the oscillating wind generator.

q1605 said...

Hey peep! Narc 101 says to always take a second look at whoever sides with the person who is picking on a weaker one.

Pandora Viltis said...

My mom always did accuse me of always championing underdogs. Which always seemed like an insult until more recently she decided she was an underdog and needed me. That was my last ass biting. I hope.

q1605 said...

At least your mom was a diplomat. Mine just called me a mark.

Tundra Woman said...

Frankly, I'd consider getting banned from some PC site a definite indicator of sanity, Peep. The "Daughter of..." Forums are about as crazy/"PC" as they come online. I don't offer or accept excuses for abusers, period the end. I don't CARE "How they GOT that way" particularly because it's an ass-scratching exercise and that's an itch that's mindless and reflexive. In other words, it doesn't change my reality one damn bit. In fact, it seems more of an effort to OBFUSCATE ACCOUNTABILITY and DILUTE RESPONSIBILITY<Two immutable Facts of Adult Life.
There's not a Forum I've come across online that deals with these freaks that I can recommend for ACs. I'm sure I haven't seen them all but I've seen enough craziness in Forum-ville to give them wide, wide berth. Most of them seem to deal with adult partners, not kids who grew up with CBs. There's a world of difference which makes ACs kind of a Forum after-thought at best or there's an effort to shoe-horn AC's into the Partner's world which doesn't fit at all. Interestingly, the adults who CHOSE their CB partners seem to be oblivious to the results of their choices-their kids: If mentioned at all, they'll tell you their kids are "just fine" or something along those lines.
Yeah, right: Rocked your world as an adult but not your kid's?! And you're gonna tell ME how this works?! BWHAHAAAAAA!!!
TW

q1605 said...

Mostly what I see on these forums are people peddling self published books that are a huge laundry list of what makes personality disordered people not like the rest of us. Tell me something I don't know. I will tell you to put as much distance between you and the loon as humanly possible. That was the only sure fix for my situation. Telling someone that living in proximity of an NPD is a workable solution is like telling someone to go ahead and handle snakes because if you get bit we can probably save your life.

mulderfan said...

Perpetuating the myth that you can somehow change or find a way to co-exist with a narc has caused a lot of ACoNs years of unnecessary pain. The other thing that screws us over are the people that somehow think we're losers for finally letting go of these fantasies. For me, it was a long painful process of building up the courage to say, "I'm done." because, dysfunctional or not, by the time I made the decision, other than my daughter and two cousins they were the only "family" I had.
I felt like nobody had my back but then, thinking back on when my husband died, I realized they never had my back in the 1st place. Really, who calls their mother with the news that your husband just died and gets the reply, "Good! Now you can visit us more often." As always, my cousin was the only one that showed up to offer support. In any crisis my brother goes AWOL and even this was no exception.
I could rattle on about the countless times in my life I was simply left to either fend for myself or be blamed for situations that involved sicknesses and other misfortunes over which I had absolutely no control.
My happiness has soared since I made my escape and I've accomplished some pretty damn amazing things in the last 19 months since I got up the guts to say: fuck 'em and really mean it!

Pandora Viltis said...

I still have no idea why my mother is the way she is. I think she's just defective. Period.

I wandered into some of the forums and didn't find them terribly helpful. The blogs I found were much more illuminating.

q1605 said...

The forums I see are very cliquish and the moderators dictatorial. They smack of going over the Berlin wall, but INTO east Germany not out.

q1605 said...

VR I think that NPD has the psychiatric community stumped. It's been a 150 year climb from leeches and lobotomies to something that passes for a workable solution to mental illness. Until now. Rather than accept defeat and just tell people they are clueless about NPD they feel they must start back at square one. I lost the first 50 years of my life as my mothers whipping boy. I am not sacrificing what time I have left to be a guinea pig for shrinks.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

Thanks TW, I guess getting banned from there was a indictator of sanity. On Facebook, the narcs are running many of the ACON boards and the bigger they are the worse the problem. There's a few decent small ones, but on there be very wary.

I don't want to hear excuses for the abusers either. All my life I heard excuses for my mother's bad behavior, and how I should tolerate it, and no one ever held back on their criticisms of me. Well in my case I was abused but didn't choose to become evil like her.

So I don't care how they got that way either. My mother's life was far easier then my own, few health problems even if there was some poverty in her early childhood. Cry me a river. I've been poor as adult. She kept her childhood secret from me, they all do, to keep up their image.


It seems in our society some really would rather make excuses for abusers rather then stand up for victims or those who have suffered at their hands. Well a narcissistic society will take up for them.
Yes one has to be cautious with the forums, seek out smaller ones there too. I know the focus on the partners thing that is a whole other world then what ACONS are dealing with.

I agree some of them neglect the outcomes for their kids.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

Most counselors are clueless about narcissism. I found 3 out of 10 or so. I still think of the counselors who told me to "reconcile" during my first no contact--I will write about this on my blog soon, where I disappeared from my narc parents for three years. I didn't know what NC was back then, though I have a journal from 1988, where I wrote, "I am this family's scapegoat". I was told to "forgive" or maybe that my mother just didn't understand me and it was a problem of communication. No it was a problem of evil.

I can forgive myself in that I went back, being so ill but their advice at the time wasn't the best. I feel there was a huge hole in knowledge about NPD and sociopathy. I am tired of people who told me for years, to give her a place, try to make "nice" who made constant excuses for her as I got stabbed in the back.

Mulderfan, I was so sick last year, I thought I was going to die, constant infections, kidney stone pain--not diagnosed etc, no one came to visit me and I knew NONE OF THEM CARED. It helped instigate my second no contact. there was never any support. I faced severe illness and worse, and well the ice queens never did care. Yes I've heard reactions like that too. I am glad life is turning out far better for you now.

q1605 said...

Peep, I got pretty sick starting about a year ago so I know what a death defying culture we live in. It's pretty sad really. Facing mortality and people flying by and basically telling you better thee than me. Well buddy. Right now it is me. And you have a pretty cavalier attitude toward MY death. Last time I checked no one gets out of this world alive. Including you.

q1605 said...

The problem with counselors is that they read a couple of books and get a certificate to hang off their wall and think they are experts. All that narcissistic injury shit over and over and over about how inside the narc is really a weak injured child hiding and wounded. Buhll shit. I have seen my mother gouge people and get that self satisfied smug smirk on her face too many times not to know her for the evil loon she really is.