Sunday, May 10, 2015

I don't like ass kissers

From Narcissists Suck:
It is impossible to explain how evil came into being without, in some substantive way, lessening it. We assume when something is explained to our satisfaction that we've taken the mystery out of the puzzle. Its not evil...its the result of abuse. Its not evil...they have messed up chemicals in their brains. Its not evil...their genetics are at fault. Any explanation of the etiology of evil must discount the power of choice, free will, and personal responsibility. Period.

Don't fall for what passes for "truth" by the prescribers of false righteousness. They want peace at all costs. They are willing to overlook the crimes of abusers in order to keep things looking good on the surface. They want you to screw yourself by pretending someone didn't injure you, steal from you, slander you, etc. They demand you submit to bad treatment so they don't have to deal with anything as messy as your hurt or angry feelings at having been crapped on and screwed yet again. See what I'm saying? These people who condemn your negative feelings are demanding you put up with being raped. They are demanding your silence. In fact, in a real sense, they are piling on with the narcissist. They don't want to be inconvenienced by your justifiable reactions to evil deeds done to you or yours. Do not give moral weight to the opinions of someone who is only studying their own convenience and therefore willing to subvert justice in the name of a false peace or truce with evil.

Give up your quest to find peace at the cost of honesty. Be honest with yourself about what you feel. Attempts to lessen the guilt of the guilty is an illegitimate way to cope with your negative reactions to them. Accept the truth that a decent person should be angry and outraged at perverted and evil behaviors. Evil people create themselves. They stand before God Himself with no excuses for their evil deeds. He will strip away all their excuses in the final judgment and they will be forced to bear the full guilt for their choices. We should quit trying to be better than God Himself.

26 comments:

Joan S said...

Wow, thanks Q, I sure needed that. I knew that and believed that, it was still easy for me to fall prey anyway. Things like this needs to be at the forefront of my mind at all times. We don't justify the evil, don't make yourself better than God.

Just that some people make things sound so good and safe really. Pretty words remove the darkness, narcs are really just 3 year olds that never got a hug. Oh please, I feel so stupid. Its ok, I never did agree with her, but she could talk you out of things and then leave you baffling and you want to believe just to shut her up.

q1605 said...

It's like you said on an earlier post the otters are real quick on the air kisses and too eager to throw you under the bus. Their experience level is at the point that they brag about having a personality disorder. Who brags about that? It just means you are an unstable freak that ends up dragging every one into the fray. I guess considering that I was addressing personality disordered women my post was inflammatory But it was Otter that put screen shots and links up and turned it into an international incident. Then threatens lawsuits and demands reparations. Hold your breath bitch Wait! I can't say bitch. It tramples her sensitive feelings. I can talk to you about this next point. Those guys that are so quick to chime in better look around. The number of men out here blogging gets smaller everyday. There is always some new Daughter of Malignant Narcissists site. For what ever reason you want to white knight these crazy women is between you and you. But every guy that gets kicked aside rarely has someone take his place. This is going to end up a niche by women for women and about women. And the men who came from crazy house holds not need apply.

Joan S said...

Well, you have inspired me to want to write, to get it all out. The men are important here, and I wish there were more really. When she said BPD I thought it was bipolar disorder. I never even heard of borderline before.

Of course LO will continue on with her crazy blog, and she is all impressed with her latest stats, that's all that counts, I guess. And the love fests with people like Alaina. Its crazy to gaslight someone the way she did. To torment an acon by pretending to be her mother. I just want to demand answers for that, but I'll leave it alone.

Elli G said...

A few years back I stumbled on a George Carlin video on youtube and absolutely loved him ever since.Honestly, if I wanted to be like someone that would be him.But I have to search who "I" really am for once. Wonder how he got away telling so many truths to such wide audiences.

Male acon blogs are hard to find.My husband is an acon and keeps asking me why there aren't more guys into acon blogging. But then at times when I talk to him about my discoveries he gets all fed up and disgusted by it all and doesn't want to face himself in the mirror and see exactly what is the damage that his father inflicted upon him.

It isn't easy to face your true feelings, and society teaches that men are not supposed to cry, so he avoids it like hell.

I am planning to start my own blog and with his permission share some of his stories as well. Not that I don't have enough of my own but I want to give voice to some of his pain and perspective as well. What is also an unfortunate realization is that to find fellow acons you have to be fluent in English. In my first language there are zero, nil, no blogs on narcissism paired up with parenting, a lethal combination if you ask me.
So I was thinking of a bilingual blog,even though it's so much more work then there'll be double the chances of helping someone have that necessary aha moment.Also double the opportunities to unmask the freak and finally vent!

Blog on Q, blog on!

q1605 said...

Elli Men are told their whole lives to bottle things up and stuff it all down. Hide your true feelings Feelings are for pussies. What does a guy get if he speaks out. He gets shamed worse than any body else. Ah this guy is obviously a 40 year old malcontent who lives in his mothers basement. Why? Because some one excuses personalty disorders and they don't get a rubber stamp from me.

mulderfan said...

Boo fucking hoo...narcs had tough childhoods so they should be excused for being bullying assholes! Bull shit!
They make choices! If know enough to be kind and respectful to a bank teller then turn around and crap on their own families, they clearly know what behaviour is and isn't acceptable.
Fuck 'em!

q1605 said...

M-fan Once I started reading comments over there from charity calling me a pig and a bully I just couldn't let it slide.

mulderfan said...

You DO have a cute little piggy as your avatar but you're not a bully!

q1605 said...

Mulderfan come back all is forgiven. I am hosting a walkathon and will use the proceeds to entice you back to blogging. So far I have .37 cents. Unfortunately it's all Canadian. That's like a nickle down here.

Anonymous said...

Love bombers and pretty words, are things that should always be warning signals.

How is she an Aspie, they tend to be intellectual sorts, who are quiet, and shy and hate attention?

I wish there were more male ACON bloggers too, this is too important topic to leave 50% of the population out. Borderline is far different from Bipolar. Borderline is a Cluster B that actually overlaps with narcissism.

I realized with horror she seemed to identity more with the narcs then she did with ACONs. That is a serious problem.

Controversy will bring blogs more traffic but it is not traffic that lasts.

I believe she knew her post would cause controversy, didn't she admit this from the start?

I dare say that the identity issues of the borderline personality disorder probably means a "disconnect" from their own emotions so seeing honest emotions is not a good thing to them?

Anonymous said...

I believe she will have to make a choice, become the BPD/NARC blog or be an ACON blog. At this point she has chosen the former it seems. She does not seem to identify with the ACON community.

q1605 said...

Mulderfan I don't want you to feel left out, or that you missed anything. But I want to catch you up on what you missed. That and use this as a shameless opportunity to explain myself and still not start WWIII back up. But Lucky Otter had posted an article about not bashing narcs. To illustrate why this might rub some of us the wrong way I pasted it in a blank field and wherever she used the word Narc I substituted the word Nazi. That suddenly was evidence of my sick and twisted mind and how I am "an alcoholic pig" and a "bully". I figured that was the reaction I would get, but I purposely did it to show why people who bore the brunt of a narcissist all their lives might take um bridge to an article preaching forgiveness for narcs. Just as I thought, the article took on a whole new meaning with that one change in nomenclature. But to us our holocaust was sponsored by our narcissist family members.

mulderfan said...

I think replacing narc with Nazi was a stroke of genius! Makes me love you even more than I already did.
As for the nickel comment. Fuck-off!

q1605 said...

I thought it was good way to "flip the script. I can't compare Acon's to the Jews who caught one in the holocaust but give'em time......give'em time.

q1605 said...

It certainly got a rise out of the otters. Which is and at the same time wasn't my objective. I don't want to ruffle feathers needlessly but I wanted them to see why an acon might not like all the narc appeasement bull shit. The skulduggery my mother subjected us to was a good analogy to the treatment of Jews in the war. If my mother wasn't so lazy and had no governor she could have given a dictator a run for his money.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

http://fivehundredpoundpeeps.blogspot.com/2015/05/you-are-entitled-to-your-feelings.html

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

Replacing Narc with Nazi hmmm interesting

I remember enough that I think you made a definite point there which that is the appeasement of evil is not a good message. It's the same one I sought to make.

There is an agenda to defend the narcs thus the "change agents" I bring up. you think Wall Street and nasty bosses want people suddenly getting informed about narcs and saying "No more!"? Even to see through their games, they'd lose power.

We are in an information age a lot of the powers that be don't like. They seek to control information or divert it. You see it on political and cultural boards. Even Zero Hedge is full of hacks, who get busy when too many start questioning the system.

Same for narcissism. Let the riff-raff truly understand sociopathy? No way! They may question things like bank bail-outs and corporate team building exercises which teach people to bow to the narcs in the group.

Speaking of team-building, I almost lost a job, taken to some team building garbage seminar where they had coworkers walk me blindfolded in the woods and other nonsense. It taught you to be an obedient drone. I protested even on philosophical measures and my bosses were pissed.

q1605 said...

Anon you are right she will have to pick a side and stick with it. She either condones chaos or she wants to avoid it. Whatever she chooses she is at a crossroads along with her image.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

I agree definitely too.

Joan S said...

I've heard of that drone training. I've heard this one time they had these kids sitting around a table in front of a plate of 3 marshmallows. A voice would tell them to eat none, or one or two of the marshmallows. If the kids followed obediently, and didn't just eat all the marshmallows, then that kid would be deemed the most successful.

I don't remember it exactly something like that. But that is drone training. It would be hard to not eat all the marshmallows.

Bess said...

Ohhhh. I'd forgotten about that woman. She's an Aspie now? Wtf.

q1605 said...

How have you been Bess? I was getting worried about you. Your last post sounded like you were fed up with things.I tried to post to you on your blog but it never showed up. I still have your email but didn't want to bother you if you were busy or going through a stressful time.

q1605 said...

Joan, we let kids eat all the marshmallows they want at our house. My grand son has me wrapped around his little finger.

Joan S said...

Mmmm, marshmallows. Ok, I'm on my way over to eat those marshmallows. I would have eaten all the marshmallows too, guess that's why I never became successful.

Bess said...

Q, I just checked the actual blog page and saw your comments. I'd been relying too heavily on my email to notify me when someone posted and somehow ended up missing these. I've been doing better, I think. Miss you guys even though you're always here. It's strange how easy it is to forget when I'm overwhelmed.

q1605 said...

I think the world will keep spinning with or without my comments but I was worried about you.