Saturday, August 8, 2015

George Carlin On Euphemisms

In the age when torture has become "enhanced interrogation techniques"; when the rich are "job creators"; when murdered children are "collateral damage"; it is good to remember these brilliant words from the late, great, George Carlin.




It is also good to remember that the phrase "Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder" has now been officially changed in American English to "PTSD", a totally lifeless non-threatening acronym, totally devoid of even pity and with an almost whiny feel to it.

44 comments:

Joan S said...

I liked that, I wish it went on forever. Yes, I agree, we are making things seem a little too tame, while the reality of everything is still a horror. Kind of like gaslighting.

q1605 said...

Euphemisms are exactly like gas-lighting. If you pointed out something my mother did that was outside the norm of polite society you better dot your eyes and cross your tee's. Any wiggle room let her file you away as a liar and exaggerator. And she believed it. Talking to her about her past was like an attorney presenting a case in a court of law. Leaving one thing out or misstating one thing let her brand you as a liar. And in her mind you really were lying about her.

Joan S said...

I can imagine how your mother was about that trial. She didn't just say she didn't want to talk about it, just twist you around over it. Gaslight some more. I had it with people who say, "I didn't say that." Its to screw me over, and I can't get a word in edgewise, because I always have an issue over what they didn't say. Not what they said. But I'm screwed at that point, you know? I've been reading some more about Anna V's stuff about words. And non-apologies. They non-apologize saying stuff like, "I'm sorry if what I said hurt you, it wasn't meant to." My gosh that isn't even being sorry at all!

Words have value. If your mother couldn't admit she didn't want to talk about it, that she made a mistake, it might be better. I don't know. They never live in truth or reality these creatures.

I like the term shell-shock I want it back. I know I haven't had literal bombs going on around me, but PTSD sounds like a joke compared to this reality we all suffer daily. We can't live in reality, we are not allowed. PTSD sounds like PMS.

Joan S said...

I still feel like the spoiled brat mother told me I was. I still can't get over the real reality, that I went through a horror movie in slo mo. I'm a year into my awakening, and I learned so much, still so much to learn. I hate that I can't talk about it outside the internet ACON blogs.

mulderfan said...

Good call Joan! Gaslighting is all about diminishing someone's truth and so are euphemisms.
Thanks for another great one from JC, Q!

q1605 said...

I really don't remember anybody being that judgmental about what my mother did. By the time it was over we all just wanted to forget about it. I had pretty well shoved the negativity from her back on some deep shelve in my mind. Going NC and writing a blog made me so angry I am surprised I never went down to her house and ended her. Good thing god took over and got her first. He probably saved me some prison time.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

Oh man they are trashing the language. Double speak a la 1984. The political correctness is a bit much too. Everything is double-words like "vertically challenged" for short.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

The whole society is one big gas light. You probably were too shell-shocked with your mother Q to make up your mind one way or the other at the time as she insisted on her innocence. At least God spared you having to deal with her too long.

Joan S said...

Well sometimes I think that some of the relatives might try to drop off my mother with me cause they are tired of her, and I have this fantasy of throwing her into the lake. It would be so amazing, after everything she had done, and I would stand there and watch her drown. I would be that sadistic for mommie dearest I would.

Or hold her face in the water, for her I would. If there were no laws, I know God holds me accountable, but yeah a fantasy. Or just somehow get her up a tree and drop her down over and over again. Or just hold her head down under the wheel of the truck. And slowly drive over her head. Or body, just kill her slowly. I have fantasies, I bet we all do!

q1605 said...

When my mother started denying her crime to me I had moved in with her after her stroke and had listened to snippets of her crime for months. During a true crime show they were describing the haphazard way they got rid of the body because they panicked. So my mother muttered something about knowing how they felt. Move to a few months later when She was hammering about something that amounted to nothing and I said mom you killed a guy and her answer to that was this evil sneer of OH! I DID NOT! She was gas lighting me all along.

q1605 said...

My mother didn't have sex with the friends of my father, She slipped and fell on their penis's

q1605 said...

People are supposed to go to bits at the prospect of their mother dying. One more anomaly that makes US! look like the defective person. For me it just drew a line under her potential to wreck us. Funny how she eluded the grim reaper until there was not one aspect of our lives left that she didn't ruin.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

Don't the vampires live longer then the average person? Makes you wonder.

It seems all these people I know on Facebook had these angels for mothers, that they pour love over and their sorrow over their loss is immense. Many of these mothers seemed to have died young and seemed to be great people and actual loving and normal parents.

It's hard to describe how I feel seeing that stuff. I think they are better off then me, because they had a mother who loved them and even though she's gone, they have the fond memories and someone who loved them there to meet in heaven later on while I have nightmares about dying and knowing I'm in the wrong place if some relatives are there. Even with my cousins who lost the Aunt Who Loved Me, they were better off. They had this mother who hugged them and who loved them even if they faced immense grief at a young age, it is not grief like this that tears you apart. Some of you may see what I wrote today, regarding that kind of deep grief.

Yes normal people can't understand these emotions. Sometimes I see the "I miss my dead Mom" posts on Facebook and feel like writing, "At least you had a mother who loved you" but then there is a reason I was reading the book "Motherless Daughters: when I was 18 years old from the library. It's good I keep my mouth shut, they never would understand.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

I still don't get why the state made you live with a woman they suspected of murder. That one will boggle my mind forever. Think about the implications of you being a kid and telling her, Hey you killed a guy~" She revealed herself during that TV show. One thing I have thought about, you know about one time she got caught. Do you suspect there could be others?

Joan S said...

My mother fell on a lot of penises too. Do you know if that sexual nature is a red flag of narcissism in women? Or exploitive sexual behaviour? I'm only asking about women, men are on a different level with sex. And I'm not talking about prostitutes or strippers, because they are trying to earn a living. Just if women doing it for no reason (like our mothers do) is a red flag of narcissism.

q1605 said...

The state can't take action on something that didn't happen. When she was found "not guilty" legally she was no longer open for exposure to any criminal penalties. She could have murdered someone else that night and the trial she was just finished with couldn't be held against her in the new prosecution. Don't confuse not guilty with innocent. I went back to get a transcript of her trial and it is not public record. There is no record because when she was found not guilty her exposure to punishment by the state was over and there was nothing to appeal. Which is the whole purpose of having a transcript. You've heard of double jeopardy. This is that jeopardy. When she was found not guilty there was nothing to appeal. It's like washing your car after you just washed it. It was done and so was her repercussions. I think if Casey Anthony had been found not guilty they would have given her her kids back if she had any left. To take them away would be a whole separate legal action. And if your proof of being an unfit mother is participation in a murder you just told the world she didn't commit you might have some explaining to do. If they had sent a CPS agent to our house and documented what kind of mother she was they might have taken us out of there. But no one pressed them to do anything. My father was happy to have it over. She was a white middle class woman in the south and they played it for all it was worth. I don't think I am explaining it well enough. I couldn't find a transcript because there was no use for one There is a thing called res judica. which is trying the same case twice which they avoid. To boil it down no one gave a shit. Our lawyer had just spanked the office that prosecuted Jack Ruby and would have prosecuted Oswald and was ran by Henry Wade the Wade of Roe v Wade and left them demoralized. The bottom line is that kids were second class citizens then. We were to be seen and not heard. And unless my mother jumped up on a table with a knife between her teeth in the middle of the trial telling the court her kids are Satan's minions and she will personally send them back to hell, non one cared.

q1605 said...

Peep I have never seen the new "postman always rings twice" so I don't know how good it is but the old one with John Garfield and Hugh Cronin really captures the legal wrangling a good lawyer can do.

q1605 said...

Sorry Joan I accidentally deleted your comment. I tell my sister that my mother gives whores a bad name. Whores are trying to make a living. MY mother gave it away for free

q1605 said...

Wait Joan I didn't delete your comment I just didn't post it for so long it was not in sequential order.

Joan S said...

Its ok. I always wondered about women who give it away. Some are promiscuous for other reasons, peer pressure, whatever. But I think it is a red flag of narcissism. I have to go look those up again. My mother was always giving it away, and she was very free with the nudity.

q1605 said...

Joan check out this post about this book on sociopaths you used to be able to down load it for free though I'm not sure anymore. I have pasted the relevant passage.
http://rumblestripq.blogspot.com/2012/05/from-cleckleys-mask-of-sanity.html

Joan S said...

I had it up to here too that was so gross. Puke. Might I borrow that sometime?

q1605 said...

Cleckleys writing? He pretty well nails my mother but he is one of the few men alive who didn't nail her in the biblical sense. You can download the whole book for free.I think the site that link is to won't let you anymore but if you google around long enough you can find it. If all you want is what I excerpted go for it. Look away if you just ate. but somewhere in my blog I posted picture a Dallas Times Herald photographer took of my parents at their lawyers office. It looks like she is a grotesque night mare of a mannequin tongue f'ing my fathers mouth with her tongue. I have some stuff my sister wrote me in e-mail and am going to post it. She really has my mother down and I don't want to speak for her. If I post it i'll re post the picture. Keep in mind these pictures were taken literally an hour or so after she got acquitted for first degree murder. Believe it or not it's pictures like that that make me feel sorry for her. She wasn't playing with a full deck. If she just had not been so toxic I might actually feel sorry for her. I think her life and times were as void of genuine emotion and belonging as she made the rest of us live .

Joan S said...

Don't ever feel sorry for a narc. God sure doesn't. And that is good enough for me. I don't think I can download the book, my puter very old. But I would like the article you have. I can't wait till you post that stuff from your sister.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

So sorry, Q. Yeah she gets acquited and she has no legal case. Acquitted means no transcript? I wish you could have seen it. Its true back then the parents had even more leeway to abuse. Not much done for abused kids. Your mother was a sociopath. I've seen that picture she has her pinky up like she is going to flick him off like a booger, and it looks like they are sucking each others faces off. It's a side view but she looks cold as ice and sociopathic as hell. I'd like to see what your sister has to say.

q1605 said...

Acquitted means the jury came out from their vote and found her not guilty. Transcripts are for a record to look at from prison to see if proper procedure was followed and are the basis for an appeal. There is no reason for an appeal because people who are acquitted walk out the front door and start their lives over. OJ was acquitted and had he not pulled that stunt in Nevada he would still be free. He will never again be in trouble for the murder of Nicole and Ronald Goldman. There is probably a transcript for his trial because it was televised and somebody will go back over it and make one of their own. But the state won't pay for it because their copy would cost the tax payers money. I'll post my sisters words here in comment format because I get the feeling that would be better than having a private e-mail posted on a public blog. My mothers accomplice has a transcript somewhere because he was found guilty. I just wasn't going to go look for it. The court reporter that transcribes it (at least in Texas) keeps it forever. I think she has died since then and I was still working and didn't have the time to ferret it out.

q1605 said...

This will be anticlimactic because I have talked it up so much, but this is how the one person who knows my mother better than me described her.

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I think basically mom's Achilles heel was she didn't understand relationships, she had no idea what a normal one would be like, and she was jealous of anyone who seemed to have a good one with someone, because she was left out and she had no idea how to even do that. She only knew how to bribe people with sex or money to get what she wanted. So with the farm money I don't think she even saw the value in it except to pay off people or a bribe to manipulate others. And maybe even in the end use that to put a wedge between other people in their relationships.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

Thanks, you are right OJ never would face those charges again. You think after missing that bullet he would have flown right but criminal sociopathic narcs never learn, I would just say he is less cunning one because he eventually did get caught at something.

I don't think any sociopath understands relationships or even the emotions behind them. I wonder if some are jealous of what other people share since they have no feelings of attachement. It sounds like everything was a zero sum game to her where everything was about buying people off and manipulation. Yes, they play chess with every move they make. It's all about destroying others and holding power over them.

q1605 said...

I know he( OJ) won't. Its not to let guilty people walk free. It's to prevent over zealous prosecutors from dogging people to an early grave. It's about burden of proof. If the state can't meet it you gotta leave people alone. Do you know how bad they could screw up a persons life if they were not limited to one prosecution. They have as much money as all the taxpayers collective coffers. That prosecution bankrupted us for long enough for my mother to give our remaining assets to my ex-wife.

mulderfan said...

Here in Canada acquittals can be appealed by the Crown (prosecution) but there has to be an error made in the original trial.

q1605 said...

I've never heard of the state overturning a not guilty verdict but there is something called jury nullification which is about the same thing but it happens up front and not on appeal. If there is a successful appeal of a guilty verdict it's like appealing a case in civil court. It can take years and the defendant can languish in jail for years. Sometime he gets set free on bond but the bond is so high few people can afford it. That boxer hurricane carter was set free in a federal court that over turned his state conviction but the New Jersey state court foght it all the way to the US Supreme court for another 5 years.
http://legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/jury+nullification
this says some states have made it illegal.

mulderfan said...

Our defendants are often set free pending appeal, but here too it takes years.

q1605 said...

There are so many variables that it doesn't look like justice, but they attempt to make it a homogeneous process. It only takes one prosecutor with malicious intent to undermine the process. Some of these guys are very biased. Some are just mean. If they lost a loved one to drug addiction they will stack the deck against drug users. We had a guy in the Texas Panhandle that was notorious for being hard on drug users. Turns out he was using more than the defendants and stealing his stash from the evidence room. Do as I say and not as I do...............
http://lubbockonline.com/stories/011805/reg_011805054.shtml#.VczcabJViko

q1605 said...

Drug cases are the ones most notorious for being unjust. An extra gram here or less there can mean years more time at sentencing. I read where a guy had meth in his car and drove around with his laundry and a bottle of bleach. If he got pulled over he planned to dump his stash in the bleach thinking the bleach would chemically obliterate it. The lab however certified the whole jug as a controlled substance and charged him up the wazoo. If the judge allows it it's law. Drug cases are notorious for plea offers and scared people accepting them. Once a plea has been offered and accepted the chain of custody goes out the window and they quit preforming any lab tests on the evidence.

q1605 said...

If anyone is interested I found the PDR for that meth case. In Texas a PDR is a petition for discretionary review. Rather than a full blown appeal it calls a judges single decision into question and is a request for a review from a higher court. In this case the judges decision to allow the contents of the whole bottle of bleach to be counted as weight of methamphetamine.
http://caselaw.findlaw.com/tx-court-of-criminal-appeals/1059204.html

q1605 said...

Just for the record I was illegally charged for a crime around the year 2000 and got my conviction over turned on a Habeas petition. I didn't come by this knowledge because I like to sit around reading case law.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

I think the justice system has grown more corrupt. The war on drugs is about making money and keeps many employed. All the babysitting to keep adults off controlled substances is absurd and does not work. I actually support full legalization across the board which shocks people. I don't do any drugs...[well take legal medical prescriptions] and still feel this way. I have the belief that once you are in the court system, your life becomes hell. I see Texas as a very heavy law-and order place where it seems if you just jay walk your life is ruined, and they throw the book at you. Charging the guy for the weight of the bleach is unjust and yes even many innocent ones are scared into plea deals. I consider the drug sentencing insane, even in number of years. The corporations want the prisons full for almost free prison labor. There's a reason America locks up far more people then any other country.

q1605 said...

I almost pulled this thread because I didn't think anyone would get my point. That if you break a law you should be punished. But in my case I didn't break any laws and still became fodder for the prison industrial system. The thing that surprised me was how many people get ground up that are on that razors edge between guilt or innocence. The problem is that the average person will read something like this and say that's close enough, string him up. But that's not how it works. Just like my mother was afforded the state meeting their burden of proof. People like me should be afforded the same luxury. But it's become such a juggernaut that merely pointing a finger at someone in this kind of crime is all it takes to get a finding of guilt. The lawyers are as bad as the state. They are supposed to negotiate the best deal. But if they assume you are guilty too. They feel justified in rubber stamping you straight to jail.

q1605 said...

And if you want to know how thin that line is between innocence and guilt think of my mothers crime. Their victim drove to our house as fit as a fiddle until my mother and her boyfriend got a hold of him and he went to the funeral home and was buried three days later. The boyfriend went to prison for the next 14 years while my mother walked away Scot free. I don't think when she was found not guilty that they opened his grave and he jumped out and did the highland fling. I am pretty sure he stayed in his brave and continued being dead. But one guy went to prison and spent the rest of his life on parole and she was free to continue wrecking our family. That she declared me a liar later in life is indicative of how sick and twisted these people really are.

q1605 said...


Peep I got arrested and prosecuted for prescription drugs I had acquired in Mexico. The arresting officer stood on the prescription that was hanging out of the bag as he picked it up and it pulled out of the bag and blew away. They told me that prescriptions from foreign countries are illegal only to find out later that they are not. I would have never known if years later when they were violating my probation for being behind on my monthly fees I saw them hand the Motion to Revoke to the judge and I read well enough that I skimmed it as it went from one hand to the next and saw the listing for stuff I didn't have. They up charged me for prescriptions that carry a higher penalty. They had bankrupted me by then and I wrote my own petition for habeas relief and got them to drop the charge. This was ten years and over 100 thousand dollars later. http://www.bakers-legal-pages.com/cca/opinions/159597a.htm

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

Sorry you went through that Q, don't tons of people go to Canada and Mexico for prescription drugs now? I think they find what they can to nail people on and it seems they changed the rules. I think once someone is in the court system it is a juggernaut used to crush people. It's probably sociopaths like your mother who survive it the best if they get sucked in at all or "caught" at something. I am glad you got them to drop the charge but yes it bankrupted you. Horrific stuff.

q1605 said...

Hers the deal they didn't change the rules. It's always been legal. As long as you declare them at the border and get paperwork saying they cleared customs. The local legal system ( in a way) are taking a bigger risk than the defendant. In the sense they are clogging their courtroom with spurious charges in an erroneous pursuit. If I had caught it up front they would have spent more money prosecuting me than letting me go (I suppose) I don't know the real cost to them and when it turns profitable. If people knew this it would stop. The case I sent you a link to above I think went all the way to an appeals court so these people still spent a LOT of money. Before I was done with it I talked to a lot of misinformed defendants. This is why it still goes on. Until we start seeing these cases dismissed it will continue. I was under the mistaken impression that my lawyer knew this stuff but didn't. Ineffective assistance of council was one of my dismissal points. You have the right to council. When representation is as effective as no council at all it's overturnable. If you e-mail me I can send you my petition. It's fairly cumbersome. Mainly because certain writs are for certain things. I had to essentially walk a tight rope. A little to the left and it couldn't be addressed by a habeas writ. a little to the right would be addressed by something else. Clinton put a year time tolling on habeas petitions and I was long past that. So I had to essentially throw myself on the mercy of the court. Fortunately the prosecutor didn't want the judge to see they had used his court to perpetuate an injustice and instead of asking for the full ten years they offered me 90 days and I took it. It's hard enough to do this from the outside and impossible from inside jail. The judge was as fair and impartial as a boy scout. I ended up with immense respect for him. But the prosecutor can bite my low hanging fruit.

q1605 said...

Peep I just found a law firm on-line claiming there is no legal way to bring usable amounts of prescription drugs in despite whether they were prescribed by a Doctor out of the country or not. So someone is lying and from what I can tell it's the law firm. They should lose their license over something like this. But another thing I found on my sojourn through criminal justice was how eagerly they all protect one another. One time I asked a lawyer about if pot should be legal and he said something to the effect that if they legalized marijuana most lawyers would go bankrupt. They can still bite my low hanging fruit that is a personal declaration that will never change. My first lawyer said they can roll everything together into one big charge. That's like saying if you beat up 10 guys and their combined injuries would kill one man they can charge you with murder. Sort of.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...


I always had the feeling they changed the laws as they saw fit and made it up as they went along, disgusting you went through that when it was legal. Sadly many people get caught in the juggernaut just via confusion and not realizing they are being lied to. Yes I would like to see your petition and will email you. I can understand why you took the 90 days looking at the 10 years looming at you. It is disgusting the depth of time and sentences now, so they can have their free laborers for corporations, well pennies for the prisoners. Cheaper then higher people they have to pay minimum wage too I guess and explains why the USA imprisons far higher of a number of people.

Wow they all contradict themselves. Not surprised. I would not be surprised that if they legalized pot a lot of lawyers would go bankrupt. I actually am against the drug war in total, don't use any illegal ones myself, but believe it is a billion dollar money maker behind the scene for the elite and think of how many professional babysitters there are just for the drug users who would lose salaries.

Your first lawyer definitely sounded like an incompetent. Considering what I went through in the medical world waiting 17 years for diagnosis, I suppose there's a lot of lawyers who rise up who know very little. Of course most of the laws are written now to confuse it seems.