Friday, November 13, 2015

I Stole this Post from Bess Way Back





As long as there are people that want to Minimize and Rationalize the Damage Narcs do these words will remain relevant
http://onefootifoto.blogspot.com/  is Bess's  blog address. She had copied it from Anna V's blog narcissists SUCK!. The unofficial bench mark of writing about narcissists 
http://narcissists-suck.blogspot.com/

It is impossible to explain how evil came into being without, in some substantive way, lessening it. We assume when something is explained to our satisfaction that we've taken the mystery out of the puzzle. Its not evil...its the result of abuse. Its not evil...they have messed up chemicals in their brains. Its not evil...their genetics are at fault. Any explanation of the etiology of evil must discount the power of choice, free will, and personal responsibility. Period.

Don't fall for what passes for "truth" by the prescribers of false righteousness. They want peace at all costs. They are willing to overlook the crimes of abusers in order to keep things looking good on the surface. They want you to screw yourself by pretending someone didn't injure you, steal from you, slander you, etc. They demand you submit to bad treatment so they don't have to deal with anything as messy as your hurt or angry feelings at having been crapped on and screwed yet again. See what I'm saying? These people who condemn your negative feelings are demanding you put up with being raped. They are demanding your silence. In fact, in a real sense, they are piling on with the narcissist. They don't want to be inconvenienced by your justifiable reactions to evil deeds done to you or yours. Do not give moral weight to the opinions of someone who is only studying their own convenience and therefore willing to subvert justice in the name of a false peace or truce with evil.

Give up your quest to find peace at the cost of honesty. Be honest with yourself about what you feel. Attempts to lessen the guilt of the guilty is an illegitimate way to cope with your negative reactions to them. Accept the truth that a decent person should be angry and outraged at perverted and evil behaviors. Evil people create themselves. They stand before God Himself with no excuses for their evil deeds. He will strip away all their excuses in the final judgment and they will be forced to bear the full guilt for their choices. We should quit trying to be better than God Himself.

23 comments:

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

Good post. Narcs always defend narcs and evil. Sadly evil is defended in a society where they never want to rock the narc boat. I don't trust anyone anymore who tells me I don't have the right to feel what I feel or who takes up for my abusers directly or indirectly. One reason evil is growing is because all the supposedly "good" people are being told it's wrong to feel, it's wrong to express outrage. Competition and Conformity count the most to such types.. We are told we are wrong to express outrage, and to talk about what happened to us. No they are wrong for wanting to partner with evil to defend it.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

The narc defenders are Satan's servants, lets just get down to the nitty gritty, they hate people who are real and have feelings and consciences. Darkened consciences always defend other people with ones. They are mutual allies. I've noted with the wicked, some will defend my mother over me never having even met my mother.

Joan S said...

This posting always made me want to go strangle monkeys and narcs. Anna was just soooo explicit. Drown the buggers, hehe. Okay, I'm good now.

Bess said...

I love the idea that they may have to bear full guilt for their choices. Since they all think they haven't personally done anything wrong, and have put so many people through the emotional wringer, that idea has a beautiful karmic flavor.

q1605 said...

I've been doing this for a while and about once a year you get someone new who posts posts that sound like they cut them from Good Housekeeping..........."Christmas gifts for the insane person who is making your life a living hell".....If your narc is ruining your thanksgiving my getting blind drunk and throwing the turkey through the window I recommend burning patchouli oil and chanting chakra pleasing sounds. Over here we recommend a tranquilizer dart to the neck to buy you enough time to make it to your car and leave.

q1605 said...

This might be my favorite thing Anna V ever posted. It's like a fine wine. It just keeps getting more relevant as narc sympathizers prosper.

q1605 said...

Bess I didn't ask you if I could use this but I didn't ask you the first time either. So I assume you are OK with it. I put your blog address at the top and if you don't want it there let me know and I will cut it out.

Bess said...

Perfectly fine :)

mulderfan said...

I think Anna might have saved my life.
The last paragraph explains why narcs are so damn scared of dying. They're afraid there really might be pearly gates and an after life. They're even more scared of going the other way because they know damn well that treating people like shit is just plain wrong!

q1605 said...

My mother refused to declare a position one way or the other. Ostensibly to hedge her bets. She told me she believed in an after life just in case, and if not she would go into the void. I'm no bible scholar but I don't think it works that way. The reason my faith is a bit shaky is because I want to believe for the right reasons and not so I might get a pass for treating the world like shit.

Bess said...

My sister gave dad a talk about how she thought he would be going to hell for being such a dick. His response was, well, I'd rather be scooping coal in hell. Of course.

q1605 said...

I have a feeling the powers that be won't mind accommodating him.

q1605 said...

So he is an ass to your sister too?

Bess said...

Yeah, he was horrible, especially with saying awful stuff about her behind her back. He also tried to hook her up as an adult with a guy she had dated as a teen who ended up on the sex offender registry. He told one of his asshole friends that she needed a man and it blew up in his face when this nosy bitch happened to be at his house one day and sis called him. Nosy bitch took the phone out of his hands and unknowingly outed dad's interferences. He would try to trash her to me, same as I know he tried to trash me to anyone the minute my back was turned. She was very low contact with him for most of the last few years of his life. She always had the power and the attitude to tell him exactly what she thought of his bullshit, and she doesn't intimidate easily with anyone. I envy her personality and energy and try to emulate it from time to time, but that's a tough thing to fake.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

I told my mother in a letter she would be going to hell. I said it direct too. I said "You can't take your big house and toys to the afterlife with you". I think the narcs believe hell will be one party and they will rule there. Are narcs afraid of dying? The sociopaths in my family seem to die like they are waiting for a bus, thinking of N grandmother. Still creeped out the void of emotion she had over dying. When you think you are perfect, perhaps they consider heaven a shoo-in.

q1605 said...

Bess I used to say they all the qualities of a dog except loyalty but I am partial to dogs. Peep you really hit on the one unsettling thought that I can't seem to file away. Do they get their comeuppance after they die and is it proportionate with their actions.

mulderfan said...

Q, they have all the qualities of four year olds except they've developed an "off switch" for when it suits their purpose to appear normal.
The NGC is most likely the world's tallest four year old and his role model, NF, is probably the oldest!

q1605 said...

That's where my main rub comes from. They know what they are doing and they know they would never stand for being treated like they treat us. They really shouldn't be allowed to procreate. You need a license to drive, fish, or hunt. You need certification to install a toilet or a light switch. But any asshole with a dick can go around sticking it wherever he can con some woman to sit still long enough for him to stick in her and if he knocks her up shazaam he's a father. Or mother depending on your perspective.

Joan S said...

I can remember my mother treating me like I was spoiled. Then when she got me alone she backhanded me for that. I didn't do anything. She got it in her head that I was spoiled, she actually convinced herself lol.

Yes, I agree that they are like little children. One friend I had, it was hard to see her as an MN, and I can remember her sulks. Or rages. And they can't ever be held accountable for anything, or then starts the rage. So I don't know how they can get all this public support, I really don't. They can call on a monkey anytime, I just don't get that part.

q1605 said...

I have recalled this event so many times I am reluctant to tell it now, but it's too rich to not bring it up. I was maybe 12 or 13 and I was at the store, grocery shopping with my mother and asked her to buy some ice cream. She never missed a lick. "Oh you'll just eat it." Where do you go with that?......no mom I won't eat a bite of it. Which precludes the purchase. Or "yeah I will eat it it all up" which is obviously the wrong answer. I think I just bowed my head and didn't say anything for the rest of the trip.

Bess said...

Agreed!

Joan S said...

That's sad about the ice cream. Stuff like that gets overlooked and its confusing. I think my mother would have bought me the ice cream but it would have come at a cost for me. Which I probably would have paid later. We all have different MN's but they are all the same in the end. When someone plays head games with me, it makes me so angry these days, it all relates back to that. I always spot an MN because of their inconsistency. When I get stuck or confused, I can say, "there is one." At that point I try no further with that person.

q1605 said...

It wasn't abusive compared the things I hear and lived through my self. It's that this was so off the cuff and knee jerk. It wasn't like she beat me or anything. It was so reflexive. Her tone of voice was like she was dismissing it as if I were an animal. Feed the bears .......no they'll feed themselves. I can't explain it. you had to be there. I recognized how ludicrous it was as soon as she said it.