I had an anonymous comment asking if I thought my father was a covert narcissist. I'm not really sure what a covert narcissist is. If it's millennium speak for being a free range asshole, my father certainly qualifies. He had no problem with his wife tormenting his kids and fucking his friends as long as she kept her legs open for him. My father was not in his right mind. Other than that, I really can't comment about him, or us, or any other thing. I hoped that as I got older, and could see him through the eyes of an adult, I could make it make more sense. But that insight isn't coming. I really forgot what he was like. It's been 40 years of hard living since he snuffed it and most of my memories of him are a blur.
I ran across this quote early on and it's as close as I ever got to an answer:
"Death ends a life, but it does not end a relationship, which struggles on in the survivor's mind towards some resolution which it never finds."
Hey anonymous! I am not trying to give you a hard time I really don't have a handle on the covert narcissist concept. If you want to write something I would be happy to give you space to post it!