RumblestripQ: Back stage pass to the sociopath Side show Just cause you got the monkey off your back doesn't mean the circus has left town.
I haven't seen Harold & Maude in ages :)
I once read a book by a psychologist titled, "Happiness is a Choice". It was interesting. I think he was describing a lot in his book about hystrionics. One a woman who would take an overdose of pills and time it just right for when the hubby came home so he could take her to the hospital. She did this once a week. I don't remember much more of the book than that. I think its because all the other stuff I was familiar with, never did I see my mother pretend to try suicide though. She pretended abuse with my father though, telling her to hit him. I might get a whipping for saying that but I don't call that being abused. Oh, and one time I knew this woman as a friend and she asked me to take her to the hospital because her boyfriend beat her up, and I did, but she had no visible bruises from abuse, but I took her. Next, she asked me to go to court with her, and I was going to until she told she she started hitting her boyfriend and even smashed a glass at his head. Come to think of it, I can remember she had displayed all the symptoms of Cluster B, so did my mother, so did all of them. I don't know for sure if someone can only have one portion of the spectrum, but with my history of freaks I've never seen it. And I've had a long history of freaks in my life from best friends to husbands.
It may be my all time favorite. There was another 60's era movie with Robert Morse and Jonathon Winters called the loved one that takes place in a funeral home cemetery that has the same dark humor. I just remember Morse and this actress swinging out over a cliff by the pacific ocean and she had a sort of death wish and you could see the swing creaking and groaning and about to come loose and fall down the cliff. Joan wife number one bashed me in the head with a mason jar and when she couldn't wake me the next morning she called an ambulance and told them I drank too much and fell and hit my head. The thing is she told my mother and her family that she had clocked me with this jar and none of them ratted her out and she was not charged with assault. That was a bout 6 months before I packed and left. Why I didn't get out then is beyond me. Judith ...here is the trailer for that movie. It's got Liberace Rod Stieger and Roddy Macdowell it chock full of eccentric movie starshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cO85GsQBoh8
Sorry to hear that Q. Another thing about that woman that I forgot to mention was that her boyfriend gave me a houseplant for a housewarming gift, and when she broke up with him she took it upon herself to remove the plant from my home. You know I really feel for you for being such a scapegoat and I don't know why your ex would not be charged for assault and perhaps an attempted murder. I can't imagine hitting someone like that, with glass, and wait all night for them to wake up. I've never hit my ex's and never even hit them back even, and I never met an abused woman (I know a few) who ever initiated or started the hitting or continued the hitting. And if I did I noticed other parts of their personality as evil. Self defense is another ball game, but I can talk all day about histrionic part of Cluster B. I've seen a lot of it. In my opinion.
By the time I came to she had already set the ball in motion. I sort of have a checkered past and where I come from you don't call the police on people and you don't rat them out. And for men there is that stigma attached of getting beat up by a woman. Like what kind of man takes a beating from his wife? I was just thinking about it all and was thinking about how if they want something that is yours. They consider it theirs as soon as they can process the desire to have it. My wife considered every asset hers before we even filed and she also was counting the farm money before my mother died. Taking actual possession was just a formality. In fact I hope she did murder my mother and my mother was lucid enough to know her DIL was killing her for her money. How poetic would that be?
Yeah, I wonder if your mother did know she was trying to kill her. And if that was the case, then I hope she saw what she did. Of course there is this stigma of a man who gets a beating from a woman, of course. It locks him in further so that he can't get out. Its just crazy. That old friend I had was a supreme kind of crazy. When I realized what she had done, I told her that she has no case, and she would be stupid to take that to the judge. Then she told me that she was not going to tell the judge that she hit him, and she knew the guy would never tell either. I don't know how that went. I stopped all contact with her, other things, well, she was driving me crazy. I think with helping to educate men on these sorts of things will help them to see what they are involved with. Men get bonded, fall in love like crazy, I mean heavy duty in love, where his own life doesn't even matter anymore. Sometimes he needs to escape for himself or even the children. Its harder for men than it is for women I think to escape an abusive relationship.
I visited my wife before the divorce was final and she was still the beneficiary for my life insurance and my mother flipped out and said ......WHY SHE"LL KILL YOU for that money. So what does she do but hand her everything we owned. That was her way of driving the dagger home. It wasn't enough to cut me out of her will she had to set my nemesis in the comfort me and my sister worked for. Me and sis were indentured servants on that farm. My mom wanted to sell it to get out of jail but my grandmother wouldn't let her.
That's so frustrating to hear about. She knew what your ex was about and yet gave her the stuff. I guess if she could have taken it with her she would have, I wish you could take your ex to court for it now and get it all back for you and your sister.
I would be exhausting money that was rightfully mine trying to get money that was rightfully mine. It's not easy to contest a will. Not in Texas. My ex is so much like my mother in that she would as soon burn it as see it go to the family who worked all their lives to have something. In the divorce my ex made no bones about her intention to fight me down to the last penny to withhold our assets from me. And she did. If she wanted ten cents of my money and she could cost me a dollar to get it she thought that was a fair deal. It's all gone. The farm, pictures and heirlooms are gone. It's as if we never existed. And if my ex stumbled across me writing this she would giggle in exhilaration.
Let that be a lesson to people that see little signs up front. Like my ex would listen to who they called for tables at restaurants and if no one claimed the table she would go up to the hostess and tell them she was the party they were calling. It seems like a rascally thing to do but if they will lie they will steal. If they will steal then they will kill. My ex knew my mother was up to her neck in all that murder stuff but she took my mother's blood money with glee. My conscience is clear. They are the sinners not me. At least not to that depth.
Yeah, but you can shoot people in Texas can't you? Just kidding. lol
My other problem is that I don't just think of my mother dumping on me. She dumped on her parents and their parents and back and back just to even the score with me. I mean what did I do? I just told people the truth about her. If she didn't want to be known as a murderer she shouldn't have killed somebody. If she didn't want to be known as a slut she shouldn't have fucked everybody. Lying about it at the end and cutting us out of her will doesn't change anything. The people she hurried to the grave are still dead. The marriages she ruined never got fixed. She just used our whole evidence of existence to discredit her kids to put some sort of reasonable doubt in the minds of people who at the end of the day really don't give a shit.
No Joan but pretty close. We will sell you the supplies it's up to you how you use them.
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