Abused children cling to the hope that growing up will bring escape and freedom.
But the personality formed in the environment of coercive control is not well adapted to adult life. The survivor is left with fundamental problems in basic trust, autonomy, and initiative. They approach the task of early adulthood――establishing independence and intimacy――burdened by impairments in self-care, in cognition and in memory, in identity, and in the capacity to form stable relationships.
They are still a prisoner of childhood; attempting to create a new life, they reencounter the old trauma.”
― Judith Lewis Herman,