Thursday, May 26, 2016

Money grubbers are everywhere!

After giving a shout out to the judge in the case I eventually petitioned for and had charges dropped.  I kept my click fest going and found this letter to the editor of the paper that announced the race to fill Ramsay's then vacant seat. I stumbled across this and I immediately thought of my mother's eagerness to gouge her son and daughter and in doing so handing control of everything to my ex wife who is so crooked she can eat soup with a cork screw.

http://post-register.com/opinions/letters-elderly-reader-offers-advice-to-others/


Now if this is the way some family members treat their own family when they are too old to fend for them selves it makes me wonder how much if any restraint my vacation loving plastic surgery consuming ex showed on my mother's estate. Be careful what you wish for mom you can't bail yourself out of hell.

 To the Editor:

I am an 88-year-old great-grandmother. I think I should take time to voice a warning to my elderly friends.
It is very important that no one other than yourself have access to writing a check on your bank account. No other signature should be allowed on your signature card, even if you feel you can trust that son, daughter or loved one.
Years ago, I bought a small rock home on San Jacinto Street for my son’s divorced wife and my two grandchildren to live in, because they needed a home to live in and go to school.
After helping them through school, I managed to sell that home a short time ago and deposited the money into my checking account until I could decide what to do with it. I had never had that much extra money in my checking account before in my life.
Since I have not been able to get around because of my health, I depend on a walker to get around in my home.
This is where I made my big mistake.
As we get older, we need help. Be cautious when you choose who to help you. Since I haven’t been able to get around and need to use a walker, I asked a family member to sign my bank card in the event of the need to write a check to take care of an emergency purchase or a small purchase for me… and I explained this to the signer.
My problem was not a small purchase, but in less than two weeks after we deposited more than $100,000 from the sale of my house, a check came through my account for $50,000; it was a shock for sure!
There had been no discussion before, and since the signature was on the account, it was considered legal. An annuity was purchased for that $50,000, in the name of that family member and me, and I, the 88-year-old owner of the bank account, was named the beneficiary.
I asked the owner to cancel the annuity, and I was told no, because they would charge $4,000 to cancel it. The $50,000 went through because the signature was okay.
I think it is important of all of Caldwell County to know this, and to make sure they think about it before they allow someone to be on their bank account. I also hope, that by telling my story, someone will see it and help me try to find a way to get justice for what I think must have been a crime.
Thank you.
Mary Patton
Lockhart

21 comments:

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

The vultures go after money where they can get it. Why was my rich mother the one cleaning out my grandmother's house? Makes you wonder where all her money went. I never saw a will. Same for the aunt who just died. That one was poor but she probably owned a few things. The old better watch out like this woman says never give permission. I have nothing anyone wants, but if there is real money somewhere and someone is sick and old they will become prey to narcissists and they will come in smiling and "offering" to help. I hope that old woman filed for elder and financial abuse and called her local Adult Protective Services. Some of us have to protect ourselves even from seized guardianships as narcs don't mind having social security checks to go shopping on while they make you eat beans and live on nothing.

q1605 said...

I just revised my post on my ex and said I divorced this bitch 16 years ago and she is still like one of those dogs that hump your leg and you can't kick them off. That if we are pond scum like she has acted since our divorce was final why don't you go to another pond and leave us alone. But as long as we have two pennies to rub together and that she can steal she won't be going anywhere.

Joan S said...

When donations are being raised, like if a family had a house fire and lost everything, there will need to be more than a narc taking care of it. Actually narcs need to stay away from that, its too much to sneak away with. In my old home town, one narc woman took the money and the good stuff from donations, that was all meant to give to a family in a house fire.

Or any donated goods, narcs take. I've done this all my life, volunteered, and it does bring in the money grubbers.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

Does she still bug you like where you hear from her even now? She sure hung around waiting for your mother to die. One sign of narc mothers they stay friends with children's exs. Mine did it. Even the one she scapegoated and split the marriage up of, she sent her money even 7 years after the divorce and visited her when she moved to my state for a short time. Something she hid from me, and a lie I caught her in. So anyone outside reading this, if your mother is still friends with your ex spouse or boyfriend, know you could be dealing with a narc. My mother even stayed in touch with her narc brother's ex girlfiend for over 20 years after they broke up.

q1605 said...

No when I first went NC I was writing fuck you letters to my mother and she sent my soon to be wife an anonymous letter telling her if she let her kids hang around with me she was even more sick and twisted than I am. I guess she thought I was too stupid to connect it with her but I wrote HER a letter that said dogging a person telling the truth is actionable so Shut the F up. I never heard from her again because for her to keep writing might have alerted me to the fact she was down there like a cancer eating my family from the inside out. She never failed to shoot her loud mouth off when it suited her. She was leaving long profanity laced letters in my girlfriends mail box and the post master told us to get her tag number and if she showed up again and we could get a positive ID he would prosecute her. I got her tag number and looking that up was how I discovered she had bought that boat and parked it in her BF's yard. I went to Public Data.com and there is a field to find all the vehicles registered at that address and there was this boat listed that was bought after we filed for divorce and before it was final. It listed where she bought it and how much she put down......... $25,000 so next time I talked to the mouth that roared I said I know you bought that boat that's parked at Eddies and I know you bought it before the divorce was final so it's half mine. She got really quiet and in this whisper says "I don't have any idea what you are talking about". This was from the same bitch that mostly talked to me like a drill instructor at boot camp. But now sounded like little bo-peep. Narcs really do disgust me.

q1605 said...

Joan on that woman's FB page that stole and forged checks off my business account she boasts of working at this church in my home town so I imagine she takes donations and says one for me one for the church two for me and one for the church three for me. I better go deposit this in my bank account for safe keeping. Because everybody looks beady eyed and shifty but me. me. me. mine. me. me.

Joan S said...

I see that a lot. I make sure I bring donations to someone I trust. So don't give a narc money, even if they are rich. They have the mentality that everything belongs to them, they are very dangerous that way. They don't take anything else into account. We have one who works at our food bank and I could tell you some stories, backtracking, stuff we need to do because of her. I signed a confidentiality agreement so I'm too scared.

I'm so sorry this had to happen to you. Narcs stole my whole life away from me, I know how it feels. I know they steal, even if they are loaded.

q1605 said...

I just wrote my sister an e-mail about my ex that says about what you said. She was wondering how much her family knows about my exes true nature. I type so bad and it's a benign mail so I will just paste it in and not have to hunt and peck for the next 30 minutes. ****The all seemed to get along when I was there but who knows. Her fleecing of mom could have emboldened her to the point she no longer tries to hide it. They all got to see her scam tables at restaurants and so on and so forth and no one called her on it. They all knew she and mom let her aunt take mamas china..........If you look there is an obvious pattern that emerges. Lisa is a fucking sociopath and if left unchecked she'll do the same thing to them that she did to us. They really think everything belongs to them. That the theft is a forgone conclusion. Don't bother me while I am taking everyone's shit. Stealing things is just the formality of me getting what is rightfully mine. Think about her telling Dorothy before mom was cold that she needs to put mask on the windows because people will see HER stuff and try to steal it.

q1605 said...

Dorothy was my mother neighbor.

Joan S said...

Well, she is a sociopath. Everything belongs to them, which don't mean a thing to them anyway. If they get caught, there is going to be a rage. I have learned to just accept that. And remember you can't hurt their feelings, not really. So don't worry about that, you are not hurting them. But I wouldn't worry about her family, they have got to know, if they don't there is nothing you can tell them. I go through the twilight zone on that one. Everyone is "wha? Huh? You crazy" so yeah.

Tundra Woman said...

Mine stole and extorted money from my father in the divorce and tried to pass it off as secondary to her own hard work. Work? WORK? That four letter word? He decided if that was the price of freedom from that bitch it was well worth it. She was very similar to Scrooge before the Visitation: She loved money simply because it was all her's and no one else's and she used to to abuse and manipulate others. She simply leveraged people's propensity to be a bit...greedy, with vague references to her "investments" and rewards to be had after her death. Like that was gonna happen, right?! Glad I was long gone by then. If she could con you out of your resources, so much the better. She loved money simply for money's sake. What a poster woman for unabashed moral bankruptcy.

Estranged parents screech about how they "deserve respect!" Then behave respectfully so your offspring have reason to respect you. They also assert they "deserve to be honored!" Then behave honorably so there will reason to be regarded with honor.
TW

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

Wow she sent your wife an anonymous letter, that is crazy. I get tempted to write more kiss off letters but figure they will be used against me or as cannon ammo to get me labeled crazy. So mine gets silence. Glad you wrote the defense letter though. It seems your mother really tried to poison your wife against you which is sick beyond belief. I'm glad you found out about the boat. Yeah she got really quiet on you. That's a narc for you.

I wonder how many narcs work in places that get donations. I also suspect at places like Goodwill and others, narc homes get all the good stuff while the junk is left for everyone else on the shelf.

My mother actually stole a family money collection for a tombstone for my Aunt that Loved me. 450 dollars and I heard my grandmother and aunt Scapegoat bitching about it, but they were such cowards they never went to in front of her face. I notice the family sure loves her more then me and I think of the stuff they'd say but they always took her side no matter what.

I wish you could get rid of the narc at the food bank. Yeah they steal everything even whole families, they suck.

Your ex wife Lisa was definitely a sociopath too....she wanted the stuff she could see through the windows.

q1605 said...

Yeah I thought I had gotten shed of Lisa in the divorce she was just ramping it up to over drive.
Last thing I heard while I was closing the door on my old life was that I was and I quote Sick and Twisted and Lisa was the daughter my mother wanted but never had. Forget the daughter living in LA that put up with my mother for decades. She wanted a new and improved daughter. And my ex was happy to oblige for the right amount of cash.

q1605 said...

Yeah TW they treat everyone like shit and if we don't ask for seconds we are ungrateful little bastards.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

Your ex became the GC MiniMe by default because your sister had a soul and a conscience.

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

That's one thing that shocks me, did she expect me to sit there eating the poo sandwiches for more decades? Does she think I am stupid. I only put up with her crap as long as I did because of the few crumbs I got in my 30s and not wanting to "lose the family" but I never really had one. Yeah they want us all to line up for seconds and thirds.

q1605 said...

Yeah we have held on to some humanity and they use that against us.

q1605 said...

Neither me or my sister were for sale especially not at that price. My ex would blow Satan for 50 cents.

q1605 said...

Hey Joan I f'ed around and deleted one of your comments by mistake. Sorry my bad!

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

Yes they use humanity against us. Hey mine tried to literally buy me on my way out the door, it still gives me the creeps. They sold their souls and expected me to sell mine.

q1605 said...

In their world humanity=sucker!