Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Fuck You

I found this comment on an Ollie video and I love it. If the person who wrote this is a reader leave me a comment and I will pull it but for now it's too good to not share it. 



I raise a big f*** you to anyone or anybody who created a child and left them to fend for themselves. YOU! YES YOU! Those of you who knew and were aware at the time you left. How is that not selfish? I am still flabbergasted at those who knowingly leave children living with people who do not have their best interests at heart. Children who have less ability to stand up than you did. Children trapped in a toxic environment with their only hope walking out the door. Leaving them in an untenable situation against a force you couldn't tolerate yourself. They don't have a choice they are dependent. Children who have no protection will have to develop whatever coping skills they can just to survive it. I don't care if you were duped or tricked in the beginning once you make children you stay! You don't have the right to leave!Your rights ended the moment that child took its first breath! If they have to deal with it you should be right there dealing with it too. YOU were their only protection YOU were their only sanity YOU were the only one capable of telling them the truth and YOU abandon them when you get out to save your own ass. SELFISH?????

16 comments:

Elli G said...

This comment is sooooooo spot on. FUCK YOU "daddy" for letting me deal with the beast!

q1605 said...

Isn't it? She really gets to the heart of the matter and that whole tactic was how my family left me and my sister to our own devices. They all went "we can't handle her so you try it" while we hide under the bed.

Bess said...

Love this

Five Hundred Pound Peep said...

Yes this goes to the whole family too and the betraying bystanders. Many knew of my abuse and never stepped in. No one ever made a stand against her and I had aunts saying something is wrong with your mother and she's evil, but no one ever said it to her face or actually did anything to put a stop to any of it. Not even the physical abuse from either of them. Yeah they let you kids deal with a murderering psycho beast.

q1605 said...

In retrospect no one held my mother accountable because trying to reel her in was like taking on a 500 pound gorilla. She did what she wanted when she wanted to do it and she would throw herself metaphorically on the ground kicking and screaming until we gave her what she wanted to shut her up. So like a bratty kid at wal-mart we just didn't put up a fight. By the time me and my sister had needs of our own the die was caste and every decision was based on how will Barbara react to this and is it worth getting her started and knowing that you don't know when or if she will stop.

Joan S said...

I've only seen one man stand up to mother and she let him know on no uncertain terms that she will continue to make his life as miserable as she can. That was our neighbour. He sold out his farm, and I know that is not small thing, he had to take a financial hit for that. I asked my husband about that, and he told me that it could cost in the tens of thousands, perhaps more. Everyone pays if they stand up to a narc, and perhaps they know it. Not saying that they should not stand up to them, afterall that neighbour got to enjoy the rest of his life away from mother and our family.

Tundra Woman said...

Amen.
TW

q1605 said...

This reminds me about the joke about two guys camping in the bear infested woods. The bear is coming and one guy starts lacing up his boots and his buddy says what are you doing fool? You can't out run a bear and the other guy says I don't have to out run the bear I just have to run faster than you.

Joan S said...

I know. I've seen people afraid of mother, and not worry about us wee little ones - teachers at school, doctors, priests, neighbours, the grocery clerk, the installer for the first set of wood cabinets in the kitchen, etc, etc, etc.

q1605 said...

Yeah if you got my mother going there was no guaranty when or if she would ever shut up. I don't think she ever checked me or my sister into a new school and we were always moving in the hopes she would discontinue what ever affair she was having that made us move in the first place. I lost count after the first dozen or so schools we attended just as an elementary students. She would pull up and drop us out and drive away. And not one single time did a staff member voice a concern about my mother doing that. They would give me dirty looks like it was my fault that I was being dropped off like a sack of potato's, but no one ever said maybe we should check into a parent that thinks that is appropriate. I mean NEVER. NOT. ONE. TIME. DID. A. SCHOOL. OFFICIAL. GET. INVOLVED. As long as we had our phone number memorized they just let it go. That wouldn't happen these days, but back then it's all we knew.

Anonymous said...

I was really on a tare that day! I posted the comment at OLlie's place. I went there today to delete it but I will leave it. I was concerned for those who already left their children and that it might upset them. I really care about the children and all they have to go through alone. I was not received well with something similar trying to explain to someone that the way he was going about something was hurting his children but he cared more about carrying a placard blaming his wife for alienation and cared more about wanting support for attacking his x for alienation than he cared about his kids. I have a rough copy of a vid done.https://youtu.be/3c8Pyr-4BgI

Yeshka said...

I didn't watch your vid till just now. Please ignore my anonymous comment from earlier. I like it just the way it is. Doesn't need my commentary. I do not in general type what I think. I keep it to myself. I have thought things just watching people. People you just want to hit with a big stick! But I know that's really not a good way to think if you are a Buddhist. But I'm not a Buddhist so I guess I can think that way. Thanks for sharing my comment I'm glad you have the audience for it. L'Chaim

Yeshka said...

This is an oldie but goodie. Really old George Carlin
https://youtu.be/26UA578yQ5g

Raggedy said...

It's been a really long time since I used blogger.

q1605 said...

We are pretty lenient over here on just about everything, but I draw the line at fucking cussing Don't use the word fuck fuck fuckity fuck fuck And you'll do just fine. I just so loved your fucking comment over at Ollie's that I am fucking glad you saw it and are giving me fucking permission to use it here. People always worry about the adults that end up in bad relationships but they never do the math and realize when an adult runs screaming from the room there is usually one or more kids left behind. I don't know what you have read but in a nutshell my mother was so crazy she killed a guy for money and then drove my father to suicide. Which in my advancing age I have boiled it down to one message and the message I got was us grown ups can't make her do right so you give it a go. And to that I say fuck you to every adult that left us behind (I have a sister that is a couple of years older than me ) My mother was so crazy instead of driving us apart we kind of leaned on each over the years. Feel free to post when and where you want just watch that pesky "F" word.
I hope you get that I am joking but I want to be sure. The blogosphere is chock full of folks that are sick and tired of their narcs but not sick enough to cuss. Fuck that is all I have to say about that fucking noise.

q1605 said...

My computer is having an off day. I plan to view that video you linked me to and maybe give it a post of it's own. Raggedy the cat if you ever want to write something to share let me know and I will get you my e-mail and you can bask in the glory of running a blog about crazy people. There is nothing quite like it. Misery loves company is the first thought that comes to mind.